[nippa&pippa]

That what my 3 years old son said tonight...:wah
So my husband and i sat down with him to find out why....
1. miss his own bedroom
Next plan, find new house asap, he will pick his own bedroom and new bed as his sister will need his while new baby will need her cot!!
2. miss his friends
aarrggghh, what about his new friends, samuel, haley-K, joshua etc? oh yes :D
3. miss granny, grandad and grandma buelah
They are coming next month and grandma buelah coming in oct :clap
He is now happy....phew.....off to bed.

I wasn't expect young child to say this....

[jubjub]

Oh, bless him the poor litte soul.... it must be awfully confusing for him to suddenly have things vanish.

Sounds like you have sorted it out for now though... fingers crossed it stays that way...

[willowshouse]

We had similar when were looking for a rental house. We found one we liked and brought the kids to see the house and their bedrooms and when we asked our 7 year old if she thought she might like living there she started to cry and said "it's not my bedroom!" Suddenly it clicked into place - she wanted her bed/toys/familiar things and couldn't even imagine living there if they weren't in place. Bless her!

Glad you had an answer for all those things :clap

Dawn

[nippa&pippa]

Yes, my husband and i agree that once we found our house, i think he is fed up of rental home as he can't put poster up etc in his room, we will do children's bedroom first to make them happy...Saw nice bedding and matching wall stickers for sale in one of junk mails so might get new bedding for them too, something to look forward to decorate their own room...but first job is find house first....i hate it as can't find the ideal house yet, none of them i have see does click yet :uhoh

[marcia]

Oh no!!

Hope it hasn't upset you too much.

I remember Emerson (3 years) coming out with 'I want to see grandma, can we go to her house?' around xmas time, I had to try and stay calm and explain that she lived a long way away now, but I really wanted to cry and say 'so do I!!!!!!!!! But we got on the web cam and he had a little chat and saw and spoke to her and he was ok.

Its really difficult, but much better that they come out with it and let you know how they are feeling, rather than bottling it all up!

{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}

[willsken]

There’s bound to be a bit of that going on. It must seem so strange to a little one. Think how hard it is for us as adults! We had the same sort of thing when we moved from Somerset to South Wales. Things will settle, you'll see!! :nice1

[Diny]

I know just how you feel, it breaks your heart when your kids say these things doesn't it?

We've been here 20 months and my kids (especially the youngest) still long for home, their mates, their cousins, their grand parents etc.

Look at it this way, in a fairly short period of time your kids will have lived in NZ longer than they lived in the UK and their memories will naturally fade and the here and now will become the norm. I guess with my kids being that much older it will take that much longer. Not that I (or we) intend to allow any memories to fade.

Hope things are OK now.

Diny

[speckythecky]

Hope all is going well now. Thanks for the ideas on how to deal with the comments when they come up.

[wilson182]

My mum was my childminder in England when I went back to work, so my daughter and her developed a really close bond. Its the one thing she misses, and will - every now and then - tell me she misses nan and wants to have a sleepover. It makes me feel very guilty. My mum and dad are hopefully coming over in Jan next year, it will be over three years since we have seen them, and I am looking forward to it. BUT I am also dreading the day they have to leave to go back to England. It will either make my daughter realise that she will still see her nan, or it will upset her to see her go again.

*gulp*

[andreamatt]

Hi Sophia

Fingers crossed you find a house you like soon. From previous posts it sounds like your little boy has settled happily into kindergarten etc. - and has his grandparents' visits to look forward too. I'm anticipating many of these moments with my children (9 and 6) when we arrive in the summer.

Chin up, keep smiling!

Andrea

[thezorbster]

It's so hard, we haven't even made the move yet but our 4 year old keeps telling me now that she doesn't want to move and that she loves her house. I keep telling her that I love our house too but when we move we'll find another house with hopefully a bigger garden etc and that she can still have a fairy room when we move. I think she's worried about losing her new bunk bed, fairy things etc as she's only just got her bed. When I tell her that we'll go shopping for new fairy stickers to pack and take with us she cheers up and is a lot more accepting. We've also told her she can have a trampoline if we have a big garden which also cheers her up.

Family will be harder, they don't live locally now but we see them every few months and she has a fantastic relationship with them and she keeps saying 'will I see Nanio & Grandad and Grandma again?'. That's a really upsetting thing to hear but we just tell her that she'll be able to talk to them and see them on the computer and it will be just like watching them on telly.

I think we sometimes underestimate the effect things can have on very young children and think that they don't really understand the reality of what will be happening but I know she will definitely need the security of familiar items around her when we finally make the move and will make sure photos of family are packed securely in our luggage along with her fairy duvet cover!

[nippa&pippa]

I think we sometimes underestimate the effect things can have on very young children and think that they don't really understand the reality of what will be happening but I know she will definitely need the security of familiar items around her when we finally make the move and will make sure photos of family are packed securely in our luggage along with her fairy duvet cover!

True! We all underestimate because we all don't know what they can understand at this ages. Between 18months and 5 is difficulties age group to explain. Lucky my daughter is in clear from this as she was only 9months.

We did that, brought brand new duvet cover of thomas the tank engine with matching pillow. So when we move into rental home, we brought airbed while waiting for our container turn up and his face lit up when i brought out his new bedding...

My husband and i talked about it more last night, and i think the main problems of whole things was down to my strong network group that we end up in each other's house every week, bit like playgroups in our house as always up to 10 kids at time!! Four of us was neighbours, so ashley often open the door and off he went to one of friends' house! very open door policy! :yes or we get knocking on the door from kids want to come in!! :uhoh (half hour later, house is tip:laugh ) I miss it too, a chat and coffee with fellow mums, moaning about kids.

[SharpBlade]

Hi Sophia,
well, feel free to come to our house if you feel like it, we are in Chch too. We have been here 15 months now and I agree, once you have you own house, it is much nicer. I absolutely hated our rental.. We bought a house in September 2006 and although it still doesn`t feel like "our" house (we haven`t painted the walls or changed anything...yet), it is our place anyway. I think I will miss our house in Ireland for the rest of my life.. All the space we had, the fields, the total freedom for our kids, a handful of great neighbours scattered along an old safe coutry road. Anyway, it can only get better, good luck,
Laura

[nippa&pippa]

Laura, i have PM'd you, thanks

[nippa&pippa]

Thank you to everyone above sharing same situations. Ashley was so exciting today as he had been invitied back to one of his friends' house after kindy :raebanana ....too exciting that he tripped over outside their house and hurt himself :o
Had great fun there, for me it was nice to see him much happier and also his friend's mum also got 4months old girl, very handy for Romilly, well eventually as Romilly is 13months, they will be in same school year.