[jewelsvani]

Has anyone got any advice on how to stop thinking about NZ constantly and wishing for time to move faster? :yes . My whole life seems obscessed about the move in 9 months, all I do is try and make time fly by but it actually seems like it goes slower i am sick of planning out the next 9 months down to the date I hand my notice in, the time i buy the flights etc.

I have been planing this move since 2000 and now the closer to the date we get the slower time seems to go. I think the best way is probably to forget about it and stop using forums (but they are too informative not to). I think the worse thing is my life is on hold I can't buy a house or make that much of a friendship group (i already live 300 miles from my old friends), becasue we are going and financially it would be stupid now to be commited to property in this country too much of a risk.

Just typing this message I am now 5 minutes closer to the move. :)

[speckythecky]

You can't do anything about it, it has taken over your life and invaded all your pores. Just go with the flow, you will be on your way sooner than you think

[Sam B]

I reckon it's similar to pregnancy for this. You spend 9 months obsessing about having a baby, reading stuff, going to classes, time goes so slow, getting slower towards the end... Is there any reason you can't move sooner than 9 months? I sympathise, it only took us 5 months from the first thought to being here, and that seemed to drag to me. However, I am struggling to adjust at times, so maybe your more measured approach is wiser.

[CjChris]

I know how you feel. My OH and I were just commenting last night that we look forward to a time to be living more in the moment...really hard to do now with so much planning to do (and a computer attached as an extra appendage!)

[wiki]

When I read the title I was thinking you were having issues with the NZ supermarket chain.

Sorry it's dragging on - I know the feeling as we're still waiting on a case officer and since our application isn't straightforward (even though it's a partnership one) we still don't have a clue if we're going to get a favourable outcome.

So my OH is trying to forget about NZ altogether to minimise disappointment - which isn't easy when I'm in contact with my old employers and spending a lot of time on here and the property section of TradeMe.

And I'm desperate to hand my notice in, but can't afford to burn any bridges here if it turns out we can't go.

All I can say is sit tight and keep your chin up!

[Helsandfamily]

I feel the same. Everything is on hold. What is the point in buying a new sofa, when we will have moved by this time next year (hopefully). It does seem to be taking over our lives. My Oh wants to change jobs, but there is just no point at the moment.

I Think I will be relieved now just to hear one way or another, so that we can start moving forward again - or at least feel like we are moving forward again instead of Limbo. It is a very strange feeling. :roll

Hopefully things will start to happen a bit quicker.

Good luck

hels

[jubjub]

Its a while, but I remember it well... things did not get bought/done between eoi selection and ita/interview for pr... then all hell broke loose...

[jewelsvani]

Is there any reason you can't move sooner than 9 months?.

Yeah unfrortunatley there are a few reasons have to wait until the next school year starts in NZ and when my commitments over here ends.


So my OH is trying to forget about NZ altogether to minimise disappointment - which isn't easy when I'm in contact with my old employers and spending a lot of time on here and the property section of TradeMe.

And I'm desperate to hand my notice in, but can't afford to burn any bridges here if it turns out we can't go.

I feel the same. Everything is on hold. What is the point in buying a new sofa, when we will have moved by this time next year (hopefully). It does seem to be taking over our lives. My Oh wants to change jobs, but there is just no point at the moment.

I know how both of you feel I want to quit my position but there's no point for 9 months and will probably look bad on the CV, so i guess its grin and bear it. I have had the on hold feeling for years now and it's driving me nuts so I am really looking foward to the time and can lay some roots. :)

[marcia]

Welcome to Limbo land!!!!!

It took us two years from first thinking about NZ to actually getting here.

The last few months are the hardest, you spend all your time waiting, and you are living in limbo land, being there but wanting to be here, it is very hard.:wah

Try and keep as busy as possible, we spent ages sorting stuff out, decluttering etc, updating addresses and contact details on the laptop to make sure we had all the information, making sure we had hard copies of any digital photos from the computer - 'just in case'. I know someone who scanned all their kids pictures and old photos onto the computer too, just in case they were destroyed in transit. It is soul destroying playing the waiting game but try and use the time the best you can, meeting up with people you really like but won't get to see again etc.

Good luck - and remember limbo land isn't forever!!! :nice1

[sarahw]

I remember only too well the waiting - although we only had 4 months between making the decision & arriving here so I can appreciate by now you are feeling overwhelmed!!

I'd make the most of the time you have left where you are - make some day trips on your days off to stop obsessing with things & enjoy the country you're in (you say location Cambridge - I'm taking it that's in the UK which is in a good location for visiting lots of places) - visit tourist attractions & do things & see places you haven't been before - you're gonna be a long way away to do all those things in the future. I wish now I'd done a lot more touristy stuff before leaving UK because its going to be about 8-10 years between us leaving & going back.

If you don't live close to your friends, how about taking up a hobby that you can continue in NZ. For example - I was so inspired by the scenery here that I was driven to start painting - I have never painted pictures before but would have loved to have taken a course on it before I arrived so I could just delve in when I arrived (instead of finding a course when I got here) - loads of other stuff - sailing, waterskiing, windsurfing, arty stuff - painting, drawing, jewellery making etc. Would be a great time to do something you enjoy to fill the time & meet some casual friends that you don't have to get too involved with?..

Have fun & enjoy the time you have rather than wishing it away!

[jewelsvani]

I remember only too well the waiting - although we only had 4 months between making the decision & arriving here so I can appreciate by now you are feeling overwhelmed!!

I'd make the most of the time you have left where you are - make some day trips on your days off to stop obsessing with things & enjoy the country you're in (you say location Cambridge - I'm taking it that's in the UK which is in a good location for visiting lots of places) - visit tourist attractions & do things & see places you haven't been before - you're gonna be a long way away to do all those things in the future. I wish now I'd done a lot more touristy stuff before leaving UK because its going to be about 8-10 years between us leaving & going back.

If you don't live close to your friends, how about taking up a hobby that you can continue in NZ. For example - I was so inspired by the scenery here that I was driven to start painting - I have never painted pictures before but would have loved to have taken a course on it before I arrived so I could just delve in when I arrived (instead of finding a course when I got here) - loads of other stuff - sailing, waterskiing, windsurfing, arty stuff - painting, drawing, jewellery making etc. Would be a great time to do something you enjoy to fill the time & meet some casual friends that you don't have to get too involved with?..

Have fun & enjoy the time you have rather than wishing it away!

Good advice there I willl try and do this I think visit more places. :)

I already have a few hobbies, the main one is music I play the trumpet and practice for a few hours every day so that takes up some time and I have met a few people through it but I am purposley keeping a distance becasue of the move which is annoying in its self:roll . I hvae even sorted out a band to join in auckland called the WCCB (west auckland concert band) so thats good and also the ASO (auckland symphony ochestra if I am lucky) so thats good, I think I will try and do what you say enjoy the time rather than wish it away but it is hard. :)