[mudlae]

Hey there
I've got a few Weeks to go (5) until I'm taking the one-way Plane all the way through they world to finally land in Auckland on September 13th.
We're moving out our apartment in 2 weeks and then we'll live @ our Parents again until my Flight in Aug. 21 leaves for Miami/las Vegas/ LA/Fiji/Auckland!
Puh! I think buying a Butter at the Convenience-Store causes more adrenaline than relocation to a place I've never been before on the other side of the world. I'm kinda afraid, that, as soon as I'm in the air plane, I can hear it clicking in my Mind and then in a matter of seconds, I'm turning Nuts!!!

Who else knows this WEIRD feeleng?
Shouldn't I be soooooo nervous??

[Chiba]

Careful though - from experience it can be kind of like deep sea diving. So long as you're kept under pressure, you'll feel fine...

[willsken]

No, not everyone feels nerves. Come that point I had many feelings but nervous wasn't really one of them! Deal with the emotions as you feel them and don't worry about things you think you shoud feel! :yes

[mudlae]

I know, I shouldn't. But everyone's keep asking me "aren't you sooo nervous?" No, I'm not! Sometimes I'm sad, because i will miss my friends...but that's about it!

[Natasha]

Blimey, I thought something was wrong with me as friends/family seemed more excited about this trip too! Am glad I'm not the only one!

Maybe it has something to do with the immigration process taking place over a period of time which causes you to break things down - who knows. I'm kinda expecting to get a bit jittery once we get to the airport though... at least I hope so!

Posted by Ade's(Natasha's) OH (Alex) who never got around to sorting out his own forum account

[willsken]

I know, I shouldn't. But everyone's keep asking me "aren't you sooo nervous?" No, I'm not! Sometimes I'm sad, because i will miss my friends...but that's about it!

Yes, that's about it for the way I felt. An overwhelming sadness at leaving my family. That was it... so you're normal!! (At least you are if I am and there is doubt on occasion!!:uhoh )

[mudlae]

:laugh
Normal?? What's that?

My immigration process isn't so far at all. We'e actually just going and hoping for Job Offer to come! Then we'll get PR approved! We haven't done EOI or something like that! I know, I know, sounds silly. But I just wanted to try! If it doesn't work out, we're still so young, we can go anywhere!
But not even the fact, that it might not work out for us doesn't scare me, and I get scared quit easily!! :wah

Well, maybe I'm just having it in my urine, that it's going to be just fine!!
:laugh

[dharder]

I left my home town ages ago to go and live in Hawaii where I'd never been to before, I was 21. That is pretty much half way round the world from my home. I didn't feel nervous or scared at all. I cried once when I sold my car and had to watch it being driven down the road by the new owner, and the second time the night before I actually left. But I wasn't really nervous

This time, I don't think its nerves as much as worry (okay, try 'fear' or 'panic'): I have four children, a flat to sell, a good job to give up, am definitely not 21 anymore, am thinking pension schemes, second car, and how to pay for college for the kids. It keeps me up at night, and every step of the process is difficult (selling flat, handing in notice, etc).

These are totally different circumstances, and I don't think I had much to lose back then.

I think it is perfectly normal to not feel nervous, mudlae. I wouldn't worry about not worrying :)

Daniela

[lockstock]

Careful though - from experience it can be kind of like deep sea diving. So long as you're kept under pressure, you'll feel fine...

Brilliant analogy. :clap

[mudlae]

Thanks for all the replies!! GREAT answers!
Well, I hope I'll do fine! I hope my relationship's not going to break,as soon as where at the new Place! I really HOPE, some things just work out easy, Like, Jobs and new Friends. I'm a magnet to stuff, that won't work and to problems and difficulties! I hope only ONE time, things turn out to be just "normal" or "ok" or even "good" for me!

[srivett]

You're not strange at all for not being nervous. You've made the decision, you've prepared as best you can, and you've gotten rid of anything that was holding you back. Things will probably get harder once you've landed and new responsibilities start cropping up, but for now you're living the definition of freedom! You're in freefall...

A lot of it is about your predisposition to upheaval, as well. Anyone choosing to make this sort of move is going to be better-suited to adapting to change (usually). The people who think you're weird are just not the type of people who'd want to make such a big change in their own lives! I know exactly how you feel - so many of the people around me think I'm insane for doing this - but most of them haven't left their hometowns, or if they did, it affected them permanently to the point where they don't want to do it again. We wear different shoes, and not everyone would want to be in them ;)

Fortunately you're surrounded by kindred spirits here :nice1

[mudlae]

Puh, I hope I adapt changes easily!! I'm kind of afraid, that we won't find friends, as soon as we wish to! Since I'm leaving with my Boyfriend, we're kind of scared of the moment he or I am going out the first time with a bunch of new friends, and the other one has to stay at home, because we don't want to interfere in each others Frienships! If you know what I mean!? Like if I get to work with 7 great guys and they all ask me out to a beer after work, and my boyfriend has to stay at home, knowing that I'm out with some great guys. Not that he's very jealous, but it's just not "nice" for him. I wouldn't be for me... how did you guys deal with stuff like that?

[PECJ]

Hi,

We have only 11 days to go and don't feel "nervous". Although we have moved around the UK and overseas before (in fact during our 14 year marriage we have had 8 houses). There is some much to sort/get rid of during the last few days (we are living in our increasly empty house until the last w/e) that I supose that we haven't thought about it.

I am getting a bity of "ground rush" but it more excitment/"ahh I've still got X to do" rather than nervousness.

Good luck!

Yours

Peter J

[mudlae]

Thank you! I have soooooooo uch to do aswell! It's like going thru hell with so many thinhgs on my mind, I can't even relax and enjoy the time wwith my freinds, because it's allways " ouh I have to get rid of the bed, and don't foget to get the birth certificate translated", and so on....
PUH!!!

[Jeni Elise]

...Who else knows this WEIRD feeleng?
Shouldn't I be soooooo nervous??

I'm doing the same thing six days later (9/19)!

I'm nervous too, but in an excited way. My friends say I should enjoy it while I'm there, because, after all, my purpose is to experience and enjoy life. I chose NZ because it seems like what I'm looking for, and if I think it will make me happier, what's to be nervous about?

I know it will probably take some adjusting, and maybe a little home-sickness for a bit, but I'm sure it will be worth it. There are more scary things in life than escaping to the good life. :P

[Rooikop]

I am glad I am not the only one. Reading this post couldn't have come at a better time for me. We are arriving in NZ on 23 July and I am still not nervous. Everyone has been commenting on how calm I am considering our house is being packed up on Monday, etc. My Mom is crying all the time, and I haven't shed a tear! I am a firm believer that things always happen for a reason. I think I am so calm because our plans have been going so smoothly that I know we are doing the right thing.

[swissmissdesigner]

"I have to get rid of the bed, and don't foget to get the birth certificate translated", and so on...."

I just got an international birthcertificate in 3 languages from Bern.It cost me $20 including shipping to US.
You can request online, takes about a week to get them.

[mudlae]

Hey Swissmiss. I figured that out a few days ago! Thanks. But the thing is, that it's not valid over 3months isn't it??? Where did you get it (link)?
I had to go to the Gemeinde in St.Gallen and they told me that about those 3 mOnths. I couldn't believe them!!

[swissmissdesigner]

I have to look for the website and I will send you a PM.

[swissmissdesigner]

I can't PM you...

[mudlae]

Do you still have my e-mail? I don't know what's wrong with my PM's!?!? Can't figure it out!