[holland]

and can't stop crying...is this normal? I feel so sad:confused:

[auskiwi]

It is very normal to go through a grieving process as you leave a familiar place that has been your 'home'...try to focus on the adventure that lies ahead.
Hugs,
Amy.

[swissmissdesigner]

You will be fine.. ( I am so jealous!)

Big hugs from me too!!!!!!!!!!!

Anna

[zardell]

I cried buckets too.......makes you wonder why we put ourselves through this doesn't it ?

At the minute, everything thats going on around you is all about loss.

Try to focus on what you have to gain in the long term.

Keep focusing - it'll get better soon.

[[[[[[[[[[BIG HUGS]]]]]]]]]]]]

Julie

xx

[speckythecky]

Thats excellent news, I hope to book this week or next.

[marcia]

Its another one of those giant hurdles that are set out on your journey, some of them have to be jumped but are not too difficult, others seem really tough, and you need a bit of help getting over them!

But don't worry you are normal, I felt very emotional when we booked our one way flights, I think it was the fact that they were one way and it was no turning back.

{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}

You will be fine, you've come this far, and we're here to lean on in times of doubt and stress.

Have some bananas for getting this far!! :raebanana :raebanana

[dilanium]

I'm sure I'll be crying when we book our flights too.


*****HUGS*****

You'll be fine, just remind yourself of all the reasons why you're going.

[holland]

rrrrrrrrrrrrr, thankyou so so so so much for all of your HUGS, so reassuring, don't know what I would do without this forum, as your the only ones who know what it is truly like....well, its now 8.45 AM, and I have stopped crying! I think it was ringing my mum and telling her,, and I could tell she was being really strong, but that she was devastated. When I was in floods of tears...and reading the terms and conditions of the booking company to see if I could cancel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...my hubby rang her, and she said that she was really happy for us, but she hoped that we would change our minds...just makes it all so final I suppose.

So, 14th November, one way Auckland ( oh god, I must not write that again, I feel emotional again), to start our new lives. Only a few things to do in the meantime, like sell the house/rent the house, get container, leave jobs etc etc etc

Thanks again for HUGS, no idea how much they mean.

JAde x

[holland]

PS- its obviously affected my brain power, we go on the 16th November 07!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[dilanium]

I think, with the slip above, you're subconciously showing how much you actually want to go-- and get there sooner.

;)

[holland]

Ha ha ha !!

[Mickstim]

Hi Jade

Well done you!! And you'll be there for the summer to make up for the one that didn't happen here!

So what are your plans regarding your house if not sold by then? This is the million dollar question in our home and OH is unable to sleep at night for thinking through all the different options (none of which we really like). I'm the more optimistic one and think it's a little too soon to panic but his panic can be quite contagious!

Barb

[holland]

HA ha , well its fair to say that it is panic stations in this household aswell. We have reduced house by £7,000, so we will see how that goes for a couple of weeks. I have a guy coming around from a company thats rents out accomodation on Tuesday, to fill us in on charges, inspections of property etc ( not ideal option really, as we have just done a complete refurb, cream cream cream throughout), I am speaking to mortgage company this week to enquire about taking a 6 month mortgage holiday, and find out cost implications, then its in the lap of the gods. There are lots of different options, and Im scared to take any of them...Im hoping things will just fall into place!!!! We felt we should book flights though as it gives is a deadline/focus and has kicked us into gear!

Jade

[Mickstim]

I will be really interested to hear how you get on. We have thought of renting out and waiting until property prices increase (and hopefully property sells more quickly as well) but OH is very worried about eventually trying to sell a house that has possibly been wrecked by tenants, and also all the practical implications of trying to sell from the other side of the world. Add that to the possibility of void periods, the fact that we wouldn't be able to afford to buy in NZ etc. etc. and it gets quite stressful.

So much better if someone would just come along and make us a decent offer and put us out of our misery!!!

Barb

[Jo Jo]

and can't stop crying...is this normal? I feel so sad:confused:

I hope it's normal, otherwise I'm not normal at all! I booked mine a couple of weeks ago, and since then have been, um, slightly over-emotional. I am veering between tremendous excitement and absolute fear every five minutes or so, and the slightest thing makes me cry/shout/swear, sometimes all three at once.

[holland]

rrr, Jo Jo, Thank Goodness, we must be normal!! When are you going and where are you going to? Its frightening, exciting, stressful, and amazing all rolled into one. Im not too bad again today, although hubby is poorly with back, so have other things on my mind aswell. Im sure there will be lots and lots of twists and turns emotions wise.

Mickstim, we have the same concerns about renting, but we just figure that to get the opportunity to go to NZ is amazing, and my mum always says to me 'you can't have it all', everything is not going to go exactly the way we want it, we know there is a huge risk that the house may be a little trashed, and that potentially there may be periods where we will have to pay mortgage...due to no renters ( which we couldn't afford), but we have just HAD to accept that you have to sacrifice if you want something bad enough (NZ), and (fingers crossed-I may regret typing this!), the building should still be in place, and carpets etc can be replaced.

In life, I tend to worry about things that haven't even happened, what if the renters wreck the house? What if I can't find a renter? What if I can't sell?..... If I go with this attitude to NZ I know I will struggle as there is countless things to worry about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Soooo, I am making a decision to let things be, and see what happens................

HA ha ha ( have I convinced you???)

Jade

[Mickstim]

Jade, you should meet my husband!! I am bombarded by 'what ifs' 20 times a day and I keep replying with 'well, then we can do this (or that, or that)' but eventually his worries do tend to get to me. I have moved across the world before, spent 30 years in South Africa and then returned to the UK which was like a completely foreign country to me and had to make a new life here, so I have experience that I can do it and although there can be some really tough times it all works out in the end. For him it's a really, really big step and something he has never had experience of, and as we are retiring we don't have the opportunity to earn more money and make up for the losses we may make. Actually I think he is being incredibly brave, but he does get quite anxious about it all!

We had a last recce trip in April to be absolutely sure that it was what we wanted to do and I think he is reassured that he does want to be in NZ, but the practicalities are what gets him worried.

Do keep us posted of events and how you feel about renting once you have spoken to the agents etc. It's comforting to know someone else is asking the same questions!

Barb

[thezorbster]

It's a strange feeling isn't it, booking those flights. We were excited, others upset. It's just one more of those ups or downs on your personal rollercoaster ride. I think we all get affected by different things but we all have the same goal and booking those tickets just makes it one step closer. Chin up Jade! You'll be on another up soon.

[holland]

Thanks Zorbster x

[Jo Jo]

rrr, Jo Jo, Thank Goodness, we must be normal!! When are you going and where are you going to? Its frightening, exciting, stressful, and amazing all rolled into one. Im not too bad again today, although hubby is poorly with back, so have other things on my mind aswell. Im sure there will be lots and lots of twists and turns emotions wise.


We fly out a month before you - 14th October, and we're off to Whitianga on the Coromandel peninsula. Your description of the feelings involved is spot on - frightening, exciting, stressful and amazing... aaaaarghh!!!!!! :D

[Jeni Elise]

I'm nervous too. I LOVE our condo here in SLC. It's full of good memories, and all the love and customization we've put into it. Our flights are booked too, and we leave mid-September, so I have two months to say goodbye. (Fortunately, we are just renting it out, so if we want to come back we can.) But it has been SO cozy, it will be hard to leave. Saying goodbye to the family will be a tough thing to do too, they are really great.

I just tell myself that there's a reason we chose to move to NZ. Something is making me unhappy here, and I want to live somewhere that I can feel more alive. I've heard only good things about NZ. I think if anything it will be a good experience to just be away from my regular old life.

[Angelonthemove]

Its probably no consolation but our buyer fell through during out flight here. Got a txt messge from solicitor. We got an offer from someone to rent it out so took it.

We have stuggled but have bought a house on 100% and love it. Its small but cosy and takes no time to vacumn so it can always work out in the end. I believe in what will be will be. If we change our minds our home is still there. but would have prefered to have sold it and had a small mortgage here.

I cried for the first leg of the flight I looked like someone had kidnapped me. but as we got nearer I got more excited than tearful. You have picked a good time leaving winter to arrive in summer that will make a huge difference to you.

good luck