[KD17]

We've been here 6 months now and our aim was to get back to see family as soon as we were able, particularly Keiths 15 year old son, simply to prove it is only a flight away. One heck of a flight at that, but the principle is there.

We are leaving on 24th Aug coming back on 9th Sept.

Since coming here we have both felt like it's been home to us immediately and have not, at any time, felt the distance of being the other side of the world from my 20 year old daughter, then after booking our flights ................. reality kicked in :uhoh

In some ways I'm totally dreading going back for a visit. I think it's going to be more emotionally draining than leaving in the first place as when we left my daughter followed us 2 days after (she has PR too) and we knew that we would plan a trip back as soon as... which is now.

When we leave I will not have those thoughts to cling onto, so it's going to bring a whole new perspective and I'm wondering how I'm going to feel about all of that.

I am in a fortunate position of being able to deal with emotional issues with my therapies, but often it needs the help of a.n.other to get to the root of these things, so there could well be a lot of strange tapping going on during our trip :o

I'm sure we're not the only ones to have put ourselves in this position and wondered how others felt about their journey back to see family & friends.

The things we put ourselves through eh?

Debby & Keith

[holland]

Hi Debby and Keith,

I obviously haven't been in this position, as I am still in UK, but I do understand where your coming from...my advice would be to just 'takeit as it comes', we all seem to worry or have concerns about things that haven't even happened ( I am the worlds worse!). You may go back to UK, and think, 'its great to see family and friends, but we made the right decision'. People and situations may have changed in the UK since you left also, I know my best friend who comes to visit from Australlia, is really exitied before she gets here, and then disappointed because most of her friends are working when she is here!

My nephew is in the army, and Iasked him the other day for tips on homesickness, and he's words of wisdom were ' the more you go home, the more sick you get!!!'. That said, I think its worth the (potential) emotional upheavel just to see your family and friends.

J x

[willsken]

It's a hard one isn't it? I often wonder how I will feel when I go back. Just looking at photos of my family brings a pang, I just don't look at the photos very often now.

I love your attitude about it being just a plane ride away, it’ so positive! :nice1 I bet you’ll cope really well and enjoy being with your family. Good luck….. and I look forward to reading your strange posts! :D

[NannyOgg]

I too am going back in 3 weeks time and whilst I was looking forward to it suddenly it is here and i have very mixed emotions about it :confused:

Nanny x

[jubjub]

Nanny & Debby, hope you both have a safe trip, and enjoy your time with your families/friends.

When we went back after a year, it was strange, everything was so familiar, but felt different... for us it did not change anything, we happily trotted back on the plane at the end of the holiday to come "home".

Its got to be done at some point, so get on that plane and have a good time, and dont stress yourselves out before you need to!

[marcia]

Enjoy your trip and try not to think of climbing over any hurdles, until they are actually there in ront of you! You might find that its all plain sailing and you feel totally fine about the whole thing!

Good luck enjoy seeing your family. :)

[Moorf]

I hope you have a great time back in the UK Debby :) - are you back to the IOM or mainland?

We've decided not to go back next year - we keep putting it off because spending 2 weeks going up and down motorways and repeating the same story to all our rellies and mates just isn't appealing! Yeah, we miss people, but we'd be going back because we HAD to and not because we wanted to and $10k is a lot of money to spend on something you don't particularly fancy doing!

We've PROMISED to go back in 2009 :o but neither of us really want to. By then it will have been 5 yrs since being in the UK.

[kags1694]

[QUOTE=KD17;143526]We've been here 6 months now and our aim was to get back to see family as soon as we were able, particularly Keiths 15 year old son, simply to prove it is only a flight away.

Hi Debby & Keith,

Hope you don’t mind me asking, we are hopefully moving from UK to NZ next June, we also have a 15 year old, who is really into sports.

How has your son coped with the move?

Regards
Karen

[KD17]

are you back to the IOM or mainland?


I'm spending most of my time on the IOM with my daughter. Keith will be mainland with his family. It's the only way we can do it. As hard as it may sound, I told my friends and family where I'll be and when and figured they can do the driving up & down the motorway as I won't have the time.

Moorf - I'd be quite happy myself not to go back to the UK/IOM if my daughter was here (or not there) I'm sure you'll notice a massive change when you do finally go.

How has your son coped with the move?

Keith's son is in the UK with his mum. I'm sure there are others on here who can help you with that if you post a thread about it. My daughter is 20 now, and she's quite happy in the IOM and we were both fine about the move.

and I look forward to reading your strange posts!
Mmmm, how do I take that one :laugh Maybe because I'm an energy therapist I see life through different eyes.. :o

For those that are interested, this is us away from our "day jobs"
http://pmt-therapies.com

I'm feeling much better about the whole thing now, done my therapies on myself and got a more realistic perspective. ;)

Looking forward to the trip now...

Thanks for all your replies

Debby & Keith

[willowshouse]

We have not long returned from the UK. (We have been in NZ for 8 months or so and returned for almost 4 weeks).

I was totally expecting to feel a big 'downer' on our return to NZ .. especially as I had been feeling a little lost before our trip home. I really enjoyed my time back in England, I had a great time seeing all my friends. BUT .. going back reminded me of all the reasons we decided to leave in the first place and by the time our trip had finished I was pleasantly happy to be back in NZ.

I feel that I have gone through a little 'mindshift' .. when we left the UK we had the emotional crutch of our planned trip back. Now that's gone, and my focus now is totally on NZ and building a new life here.

Don't worry about how you will feel .. just the fact that you know you might feel a little 'wobbly' will mean that you can deal with it .. if it happens.

Have a nice trip!

Dawn