[The Hodges]

This has been bugging me for a while now, as I flew down to Napier (for work) from Auckland mid May, and got chatting to the guy next to me. As it would happen, my company may have been (not my decision to make) interested in using him on at least one job, so I gave him my business card and suggested that he contact me to see whether we could work something out.

He then invited the wife & I to pop in for coffee if we were ever nearby where he lives and he proceeded to explain that his house is on the top of a hill and surrounded by bush. Okay I thought, that sounded nice of him. I waited for his business card, his telephone number, anything and nothing, diddly squat came back. I haven't even had an email from him.

I've searched for 'invited for coffee' on the forum, but it hasn't thrown up any etiquette or anything on how I should have dealt with this. Perhaps he didn’t really mean the invite, but I don’t think I got the wrong end of the stick, so if anyone has any tips and/or suggestions, without appearing pushy or desperate, then they would be appreciated.

[jubjub]

It may have just been "polite conversation", shame though, sounded a great place to go visit! The other side is that he may have just clean forgotten that you don't have his contact details, and he is waiting for you to get in touch, its a tricky one. If you had an email for him, you could maybe suggest a quick beer after work or something and see what happens from there, or invite him to yours?

It's sometimes hard to tell when folks really mean it or they are just being nice... and you don't want to force yourselves on them, but on the other hand, you don't want to turn them down/ignore the invite and offend them, especially when you are new and want to meet more folks.