[Nicola]

Does anyone have any answers to the following question.

I seem to have mislaid my ex husband. About a month ago I asked for a letter from him to say it was OK to take my two elder sons with me to NZ. Which in September he had agreed to do. Since then I have heard nothing from him. I have been trying to phone and only the answer machine picks up. He did not even phone the boys over christmas which is very un-usual.

It should not be a problem as I have sole custody of our children. But I just wondered if anyone else had had to deal with the situation of having lost contact with an ex-partner.


Nicola

[RoadRunner]

Nicola,

If you have "sole custody," do you need a letter from your ex-partner? I have been talking with NZIS in the last week about this. It's not clear exactly what langugae they want to see in the court order to allow you to take a minor child to NZ. They did say that if the ex-spouse has visitation rights (even if you have sole custody), they prefer a letter from the ex-spouse allowing the child to leave.

What have you been told? Have they "approved" your court language allowing you to leave with the sons? At what point do they "approve" it (is it part of the application package)?

We just got hit with the bombshell of my stepson wanting to live with us - in the middle of all of the NZ stuff! - so we are trying to figure out how to do this. And the ex-wife is nasty and confrontational. :no

Any info you have on how to do this would be appreciated (feel free to PM me if you are willing to chat about details).

As for the ex-partner, not sure. Can you get a private eye to help find him? Or if he is just not answering your calls, do you live close enough to drive there? Anyway, good luck with this! :hopeso
RoadRunner

[leslie]

after she was born i didn't speak with daughters father for 4 years, didn't have any docs and it was a pain as he was on birth cert. i hear its worse now with all child protection issues. i now have a notorized doc saying i have full custody and his permission (a wee bit ironic) to take her away. he lives in oz. before that i had trouble even getting her on my passport. if your children are already on your passport you might be able to force the issue. suggest find someone knowledgeable to talk to, who deals with these issues regularly. if you cannot find a lawyer perhaps try a womens shelter - they must deal with custodial issues all the time. make friends with your gov/ state attorney...? whatever, recommend you dont wait.

[Diny]

Nicola

I sure I remember reading on my application form that if only one parent is included in the application, then a certified letter from the other parent giving their consent must be forwarded.

Check it out to be certain. Good luck.

Diny

[Nicola]

Thank you for all the supportive replies.

I have tracked him down at last, he has been on a nice long holiday in the sun.

He has also agreed to send me the letter in the next couple of days. Unfortunatly at the cost of the kids maintenance money, but I am sure it will be worth it in the end.

Nicola

[leslie]

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