[Dom]

I know this might sound a bit unsociable but we have certain relatives that have said how eager they are for us to sponsor them and have been asking about the cost of the immigration process etc etc and saying they would like to come out.

Problem is .... I can only stand to be in the same room as one of them for about 10 minutes !!!


ARRRRGHHHH !!! HELP !!!!

I thought that by going ot the other side of the world I would be getting away from this - I didn't realise they might follow !!!!


NOOOOOOO!!!!

Anyone else in a similar situation ?? What do we do ? I have already told them it's very expensive ... not sure they listened enough though !!

[Mickstim]

Dom - unless these relatives are parents (in which case you have a problem!) I don't think there is much danger of you being able to sponsor them. Plus you have to be there a number of years yourself before you are eligible to sponsor anyway, so they could have changed their minds by then. Or you could be far enough away to be brave enough to say NO!!

Barb

[Familyofmonkeys]

Just tell them that as their name wasn't added to your EOI as 'other family members' (i'm making a big assumption here) you can't sponser them. Did they tell you at tht time they wanted to go with you?

Or maybe if they did come to NZ, they could settle in a different area.

[Dom]

sorry - yes I realise that sponsoring is a big no-no especially when it says you have to swear that you will provide financial assistance to them for up to 2 years of they need it !!! As if we will be doing that !!

I'm hoping they will forget about it ... My biggest fear is them landing on our doorstep, expecting us to put them up until they find accomodation. And/Or they find accomodation near us and come round all the time !!!!!

Man - I was awake at 4.30 this morning worrying about this ! As if I don't have enough to worry about with moving etc !

[Familyofmonkeys]

sorry - yes I realise that sponsoring is a big no-no especially when it says you have to swear that you will provide financial assistance to them for up to 2 years of they need it !!! As if we will be doing that !!

I'm hoping they will forget about it ... My biggest fear is them landing on our doorstep, expecting us to put them up until they find accomodation. And/Or they find accomodation near us and come round all the time !!!!!

Man - I was awake at 4.30 this morning worrying about this ! As if I don't have enough to worry about with moving etc !

Strange things we start to worry about, once it gets nearer to moving time! I use to dream that I had packed my suitcase, and arrived in NZ with no knickers :o

Just remember that if they do decide to just 'turn up' they would need to get return flights if they have no visa etc. If they do apply properly, at least you will get some warning.....how about living somewhere small with no spare room :D

[Jo Jo]

Just remember that if they do decide to just 'turn up' they would need to get return flights if they have no visa etc. If they do apply properly, at least you will get some warning.....how about living somewhere small with no spare room :D

Or get a really big dog... preferably an incontinent one. :D

[Dom]

Strange things we start to worry about, once it gets nearer to moving time! I use to dream that I had packed my suitcase, and arrived in NZ with no knickers :o

Just remember that if they do decide to just 'turn up' they would need to get return flights if they have no visa etc. If they do apply properly, at least you will get some warning.....how about living somewhere small with no spare room :D

er - I haven't had THAT dream yet !!!

[RamblingPaddies]

arrived in NZ with no knickers :o


have they no knickers in New Zealand ?!! What sort of a place are we moving to at all at all ??? :laugh

seriously though - don't put them on the ITA when you return it - makes it difficult - and anyway if they are anxious to move, can they not apply themselves under the SMC instead of asking you to be a sponsor ?

[Dom]

yeah they're gonna have to - cos charity begins at home ! This emigration process is costly enough as it is !

[Andy&Carol]

Oooh Dom! Can only suggest you buy a camper van - and keep on the move!

C

[BkyMonster]

I fear I may have this problem with my mother. :( We don't really get along
She's already fanatically jealous that I'm planning to go.

I won't be putting her name down as a relative. I told her she can get here under her own steam (she's a teacher and not much past 50) but I won't be having anything to do with helping her. I also have 2 siblings that will be staying in the US so no help for her there.
I feel like a horrible child but oh well.

[Rusty]

Strange things we start to worry about, once it gets nearer to moving time! I use to dream that I had packed my suitcase, and arrived in NZ with no knickers :o

:D

The funniest and weirdest thing I've heard/read on a forum - brings a lot of strange images to mind.

[Gio]

HI,
I would say... be honest and tell them you prefer not to sponsor them.
Greetings... GIO

[victoria]

I've had a situation where my brother actually turned up on a visitor's visa asking the same thing!!! He'd booked his flight on the day we moved as well!! I had to tell him after a few days that he hadn't a hope.(a bit more wordage than that) but at least he left (finally) knowing that we can't help him on that.
Leading on from the OP how do you deal with the ones who want to visit & stay(something they never did with you in your previous place) & similarly can't stand more than 10 mins of them in the same room?

[sizzlingbadger]

We had to put OH's sibling on the EOI although we sat down and discussed what would happen if they asked us to sponsor them even though they were desperate to move. It was a resounding 'no' as we knew that in the end we'd end up bailing them out within the 2 years :exit

I would be quite truthful about it, they must know you can't stand to be with them more than 10 mins. Similar lines to what Victoria has said, what are you going to do if they want to come out for an extended hoilday ?

I have my in laws stay with us around 3 months at a time, we do get on but I have to say by the end I'm usually tearing hair out because I like my own space :( As I've said in another thread I had my mum out for just over a month and it was horrendous, never again. It has changed our relationship again for the worse after some bridges being mended in the time since we emigrated, went at least 6 months without talking to me because I'd taken 'her' grandchildren away from her :o

[Andy-Dee]

Use a post office box, so they don't know your actual address, give a false one if they ask, and if they check - say 'oh that was our old rental address did you not get our change of address card'

New address - no point, we are moving again soon, OH is being made redundant and we will have to find something a LOT cheaper and SMALLER.

[catt]

Dom you write them a short note and at the end the final sentence would be............as a far as helping you to get to NZ the answer is a "big no" as you are a part, be it a small part, that we are going to the other side of the world

Put the letter in the post on the way to the airport and voila.......trouble over :laugh