[sweet pea]

we have lived together for 6 years now but,,,, he pays all the bills all in his name, i get the food shop and anything little one needs thats how weve always worked it , at time of mortgage i was self employed for under a year so couldnt go on it. we have no joint anything at all apart from a credit card we both have in his name, so how do we prove we live to gether im crap at keeping mail so all i have is odd bits and pieces dating vack about 2 years, we do have joint invitations to things like weddings etc that i have kept just cause i like the invite. we have all old photos of us on holidays cams first day ay school etc,, will this be enough for immi purposes? i was thinking maybe i could get contact sheets from cams school, doctors, childminder etc as they are all dated with us all the same address etc. but i dont have anything official. please help as i dont know what else we can use.

[JandM]

You presumably have your child's birth certificate with the pair of you as named parents? They officially mention photos of you together.

When my son was going through getting residency as married to a kiwi, I wrote a gossipy sort of letter saying all the things I knew about my d-i-l, from when he first met her onwards, talking about family occasions she'd been included in, and things she'd said about her background. We had to get a family friend to do the same. Then, HER family did the same about HIM.

[shakyle2906]

Hi, tricky one!

What JandM suggests sound good ? Your names will be on childs birth certificate.

If i were you, a ring to NZIS may not go amiss ? I realise it is costly, something like £1 a minute, but maybe only solution.

We did all our paperwork ourselves, but i do recall making a phone call to them, although i was on for something like 15mins, it was well worth it!

Unless of course someone can help you from the forum, as surely there is someone that is/has been in same boat as you.

Good luck

Sharon
x

[sweet pea]

both names not on birth cert as he is not the little ones bio father,

i have printed off all orders off ebay which inc my name and address for the last 2 years same with man utd website, i have catalogue statements, holiday tickets(for all of us) and i just thought could i not back order my bank statements and card statements to show that i have lived here for so long, will the hospital print out the next of kin forms they keep???? sorry to ramble but i am alto careful to shred everything once ive read it, hence not a lot of mail.

[JandM]

both names not on birth cert as he is not the little ones bio father

Okay... but have the school got your partner down as stepfather/one of the people to contact if the child isn't well etc.? That's an official recognition of the relationship.

And are there family members/family friends on both sides who would give you a letter like I mentioned?

contact sheets from cams school, doctors, childminder etc as they are all dated with us all the same address etc. but i dont have anything official

These things, and the next-of-kin nomination from the hospital, are all evidence if they name you both. Most people don't have that MUCH that's official, even if they're married.

Another thought - you must both be on the voters' list for the same place for however long you've lived together.

[sweet pea]

Okay... but have the school got your partner down as stepfather/one of the people to contact if the child isn't well etc.? That's an official recognition of the relationship.

And are there family members/family friends on both sides who would give you a letter like I mentioned?



These things, and the next-of-kin nomination from the hospital, are all evidence if they name you both. Most people don't have that MUCH that's official, even if they're married.

Another thought - you must both be on the voters' list for the same place for however long you've lived together.


yes weve got all that and the good news( well i think its good news) is that that pictures from our holidays and family pictures have all got the dates on the back of them from when they were developed, so you can see how much cam has grown over the years and how weve changed with dates and all. will that be good for us???

[Kiwi-In-Texas]

Here is what is required for evidence of relationship this is off the NZIS website....

http://www.immigration.govt.nz/migrant/stream/live/partner/canimovetonz/whatisrequired/evidenceofpartnership.htm

Hope this helps.


Suzanne.

[Oregonkiwi]

This has been discussed before, other people have had this problem. If you try searching the forum for partnership proof (or similar terms) you should find lots of good suggestions.

[Park City Partner]

I would trot down to the bank and set up a joint bank account. I didn't get my PR until the 1 yr. anniversary of that account being set up....not sure when you are planning on coming over......

[DMcG]

I was in exactly the same situation (without a child though :) ).


Photo's of the two of you taken in the same place (or each of you separately taken).
Plane tickets showing you both went on holiday together or hotel bookings.
Mail addressed to both of you (christmas cards are good ones for that).
Set up a joint account anyway.
We also got letters written by a couple of friends (one a doctor and one a social worker) saying how long they'd known us and that we were in a stable relationship



Dougie

[Tattie]

we had nothing much in the way of joint accounts and mortgage/bills etc were all in my name only.

I wrote a covering letter explaining that I paid most of the bills and my partner's money was used as 'spending money'/holidays etc. I sent in letters with a redirection address, insurance docs with her as a named driver and vice versa plus anything else 'official' addressed to her. We also sent in bank statements for both of us - almost a years worth in the end (they asked for more info!)

[sweet pea]

great replies im feeling much more confident about it all now.

thank you very much for all your help.:clap

[Red Devil]

Just noticed this on the NZIS website...

"If you have been living apart from your partner for any significant period during your relationship, you must also provide evidence of the length of any periods of separation, the reasons for them, and how your relationship was maintained during these periods".

This will be interesting... we sold our UK property in August 2005 and moved to France, however we moved back to the UK in November 2007 and have since been living at each others parents whilst trying to sell our French property before moving to NZ... we're apart from Monday to Friday, so I guess we'll have to declare this on our application... nothing is simple in this game :roll :)

[JandM]

Really? Will it show up somehow? Can't you count the weekends as the norm and think of the weekdays as one of you working away from home?