[pinkninny]

Is any one else feeling this "in limbo" feeling, it's driving me mad. Hubby has job offer, house has been sold (still going through) got quotes done for moving. But as every thing still going through we can't do anything, the people who are buying our house want to keep coming round and looking so can't even start packing. This is so stress full we know we going sooner rather than later but this limbo thing is a killer. i just want to pack up and go. is there a way of coping with this limbo feeling. told work yesteday and they are being really good lettting me stay on till the last min so thats a good thing. keep looking at houses in Nz and i'm sure it's making me worse, I just want to go hate not knowing like this
sorry for the moan
just hope i'm not the only one feeling like this
ninny:wah

[shakyle2906]

Hi

Dont worry, its all part of the process, like a huge jigsaw..........

We have all been there at one stage or another.

When do you hope to come out and where you heading ?

We have been here now a year next month and we love it! We had 6 weeks to get things sorted, luckily house sold straight away then we packed 12 boxes, booked flights, sold everything else.

Although we only had that short time, i remember just wanting to get here, so know what youre going through.

Take care, calm down and enjoy!

Its well worth the limbo feeling i can tell you!

Best of luck and keep in touch

Sharon
x

[lockstock]

Absolutely normal. Savour the moment because once those floodgates open your feet won't touch the ground. Then it will all grind to a halt again. They don't call it the rollercoaster ride for nothing. Have you had the 'do we really want to go?' stage yet? That phase cheers you up no end. We'll wait for your post:nice1

[speckythecky]

its all part of the rollercoaster - you just need to stay on board, through all the ups and downs and all the twists and turns, then one day, it comes to a stop and you step off that plane into a new life and another, longer rollercoaster with less bumps.

[Mels]

Pinkninny, I know just how you feel. We havn't sold the house yet and are only going to submit ITA next week, but I feel as though there are so many things I should be doing but don't have any enthusiasm for it.
I just want to pack a suitcase and go.
OH is due to start work mid May and work places at both ends are being very good, but I JUST WANT TO GO NOW...

Mels

[cathgates]

We have sold our house subject to contract, and our buyer has gone in and signed ready for exchange, but hasn't paid Her deposit as there were a few (minor) questions to ask us, She also wanted a damp report doing, which was done yesterday all good. We have chosen our shippers, decided where we are going for our medical, decided who we are flying with, cleaned all the outdoor stuff etc ready for maff, sent off for police checks. But we can't act on any of these things until the actual exchange of contracts has happened sssoooo frustrating limbo is the word I use for it all the time:(

Cath X

[Mickstim]

Limboland has been well inhabited for the last year at least. We put our house on the market in May last year and from then on haven't felt ''at home' here and everything in our lives has been on hold. We have only just sold the house - hope everything will go through ok, decided which shippers, busy cleaning out but have already mentally moved on. It's a weird place to be!

Bx

[Belmont Babes]

Yeah some more limboers (I know there's no such word) here too. Waiting to exchange this week, still got everything crossed. Still love my house, but want to go, put myself through mental torture every night before I sleep (or try to) about whether I really want to go, then in the morning just want to be in NZ....then it starts all over again. I do feel I have almost wasted the last 15 months since I started the process and pray that it will all be worth it in the end. The cards and well wishes have started (so have the tears) and resignations have begun and I too have never much liked roller coasters :roll

[nickydwuk]

Do they have good coffee in Limboland? I know I will need it. Have just entered it with house now being sold (subject to all sorts of things!!!). But we know we are not leaving until September (flights booked then). Just want to get there and start over. I suppose with the big things done (except for submitting ITA) we can concentrate on the small things that will bring us all a step closer to NZ.

[pinkninny]

Thank god i'm not alone, u all have put a smile back on my face. just got back from mum and dad's and we nearly had tears about leaving it's going to be so hard. The couple who are buying our house came back round today and it's looking good for all things. she was worried i may have changed my mind and all paper work has been sent to each other so now just waiting for contract fingers crossed by the end of the month as they want a quick sale and only three in the chain. i just hate this not knowing and it's driving me mad i'm so up and down. but can't wait to get the house packed and get on the flight and end up in wellington to start our new life. and new life is sooner rather than later if all happens as it should. all us limbolanders should keep in touch and get each other through this. thanks for all your posts
keep smiling
ninny:clap

[Lara Croft]

Start Packing Boxes - NOW!!!!

Believe me, the packing date will come round eons quicker than you expect... Even if you only start de-cluttering now, and sorting our what you want to keep and what can go, it will help nearer the time - and keep you occupied with something useful :)

Oh the rollercoaster... we had some ups and downs on the way here... and probably some more to come yet (only been here 6 weeks)!

Good luck,
J

[pinkninny]

Have done some boxes, got rid of lots of stuff when we put the house on the market. can't do much more as gone for removels that are packing for us which is stressing me in myself. just want to get it all over and done with and get to wellington. and start our new life
ninny:raebanana

[joeandsacha]

I know the feeling!

We're in limbo too and just itching to go. PR has been approved, house is on the market and we're just waiting on a sale. No interest as yet which is frustrating as we've had 12 viewings and are fed up of constantly having to clean and tidy for viewings. (Which with a 10 month old in the house is not easy!)

Have told close friends and family and most have been supportive. My wife has told her work but I don't want to tell mine until I know the house has been sold. I've come very close on occasion though! It's very hard staying motivated at work when you know you're not going to be there much longer.

Got telephone interviews lined up which gives us something to focus on, but we just can't wait to get on the plane and start our new life in NZ!

[pinkninny]

I know the feeling!

We're in limbo too and just itching to go. PR has been approved, house is on the market and we're just waiting on a sale. No interest as yet which is frustrating as we've had 12 viewings and are fed up of constantly having to clean and tidy for viewings. (Which with a 10 month old in the house is not easy!)

Have told close friends and family and most have been supportive. My wife has told her work but I don't want to tell mine until I know the house has been sold. I've come very close on occasion though! It's very hard staying motivated at work when you know you're not going to be there much longer.

Got telephone interviews lined up which gives us something to focus on, but we just can't wait to get on the plane and start our new life in NZ!

limbo land is horrid, we have sold the house after a long time and only had two viewings second couple have bought it, still having to keep the house clean and tidy as the couple keep coming back to see whre they want their stuff. it's driving me mad as every time the come round they want to buy something else and they keep offering us silly money. so getting feb up with it as they taking the p**s. but as hubby keeps telling me least we have sold.

good luck on the telephone interview thats how hubby ot his job, bless him it was very stressfull and then ended up doing second interview via web cam. but he did well beat three others.

hubby finding it hard being motivated knowing he is leaving, and going into london every day is not helping.

hope everything works out well and i'm sure it will all fall into place for u and your famliy like it did for us,

please keep in touch

ninny:cheers

[renew]

The bottom has fallen out of Limbo land. Our buyers have decided that they are not going to buy the house. They had been round on saturday and did not say a word. Never know what to believe. Going to spend a few days before we make a decision, however I would not be surprised to loose the job offer.

Time for a beer or three



Ian & Ninny

[dusk]

oh no! awful news for you guys, you have my sympathy.

[Carey]

What awful luck; try to keep positive if you can.

[Rusty]

That's awful. I do hate the UK house market that makes it too easy to pull out.

We are in mini limbo land and looking to climb to real limbo soon. Our limbo is waiting for PR and house sale, then its rush and mayhem - well reading other posts on here that looks like our future..
Ironically, this is the most relaxed (wrong word - least stressed) I have felt about the process because we are just plain waiting and there is nothing we can do for a few months except plan, plan, PLAN PLAN blah blah...

[pinkninny]

Yer we back to the planning stage, house back on the market and our sprits are very low, waiting to hear if hubby has lost his job which will really be the icing on the cake. I'm doing my best to stay postive and now getting the house sorted incase we get some veiwings. funny what twists and turns happen in ones life. all i can say is roll on new zealand
thanks for all your support
ninny x x x x

[Mickstim]

Oh Ninny - what a bummer. Hope you get another sale very, very soon.

Bx

[renew]

It has just got worse. I have just noticed that one of the neighbouring properties has been repossed. That is bound to go on the market substantially below market rate.

from bad to worse...


Ian:no

[Mels]

I need a rant...

I'm having a bad morning, nothing doing with the house, web site watching again as we've returned our ITA, still waiting on extra paper work for ITA that must be returned soon or we'll lose our place in the queue and now I'm trying to do recovery discs for the laptop and having waited ages for it to get the files sorted.. it now won't take the DVD's AAAGGGGGHHHHHH.

Worried about ITA, worried about house, OH's job, dealing with any more queries and the world economy seems to be collapsing about our ears making it all impossible.

Other than that I'm fine :D

OK better now thanks

Mels

Big cyber Hugs to all those struggling too

[shakyle2906]

I need a rant...

I'm having a bad morning, nothing doing with the house, web site watching again as we've returned our ITA, still waiting on extra paper work for ITA that must be returned soon or we'll lose our place in the queue and now I'm trying to do recovery discs for the laptop and having waited ages for it to get the files sorted.. it now won't take the DVD's AAAGGGGGHHHHHH.

Worried about ITA, worried about house, OH's job, dealing with any more queries and the world economy seems to be collapsing about our ears making it all impossible.

Other than that I'm fine :D

OK better now thanks

Mels

Big cyber Hugs to all those struggling too





Rant away Mel!

We've all been there.

I know you've heard it before, but everything will sort itself out. As you already know, its one hell of a rollercoaster ride!

Look at me, 3am in morning, cant sleep and on here! This forum comes in handy for everything eh!

Hugs and hope you feel better soon!

Take care

Sharon
x

[Carey]

It is happening Mels though just not at the speed you wish! You just need that crystal ball to be able to see that in a few months time you'll be fine, don't you ?

Meanwhile here we sit, house sold but no job to come to and wondering what on earth we're going to do if I don't get a place on the Uni course starting in July......

[Mels]

Hi Carey,

yeah you're right I need that crystal ball. It just soooo frustrating not being able to sort things out and it's all in the control of other people. Not that I'm a control freak or anything. :exit

I am just longing to be in Welly at the mo and dreading anything going wrong. If only we could just pack up and go NOW.

Mels

PS what are you doing up at three in the morning Sharon, even I don't wake 'till 4am.

Mels

[dusk]

Currently we are impatiently sitting around waiting for the end of next week for a additional medical appointment in order to get an up to date medical report.

Once we get this we have to forward it to the doctor who did our medicals then wait a bit more while he has a look at it and completes and returns our medical forms. Only then can we get on with submitting our ITA so we can do some proper waiting.

if I bit my nails I'd be down tthe knuckles by now, I can't bear all this waiting!! *grumbles to self some more*

[shakyle2906]

Hi Carey,

yeah you're right I need that crystal ball. It just soooo frustrating not being able to sort things out and it's all in the control of other people. Not that I'm a control freak or anything. :exit

I am just longing to be in Welly at the mo and dreading anything going wrong. If only we could just pack up and go NOW.

Mels

PS what are you doing up at three in the morning Sharon, even I don't wake 'till 4am.

Mels



Mind working overtime.............

Had enough of sleepless nights before we came over...........just last few weeks have been so so busy in work, and i am sad but cant switch off! Mind racing, thank god for the forum!!

Sharon
x

[Rusty]

Limbo, limbo, limbo, limbo - hoping if I say it enough it will become one of those meaningless words - limbo, limbo, limbo.
I know I must be patient, but if there was one little wish...it would be for the NZIS London webpage to update the processing times as it still says 'as of 15th feb we are allocating files from...'. Please update and say what they are up to now...just to give the illusion of getting closer. Looking forward to when it says 'from a date in 2008'.:roll

[theSingsons]

:o Oh my oh my... I think my family is starting to get in the limbo stage... had the movers do a survey last week and the quotes came in... OH had a very pleasant interview with her future employer. Now we missed a phone call from the employer while doing lunch... gritting our teeth. We hope to get something positive... pretty soon so we can start the process... GRRRRR :wah

[Mickstim]

Limbo has many different stages, I have discovered. We had the 9 months of deep limbo while waiting for the house to sell, now we have a sale but until we have exchanged we still feel in limbo, just a different sort as we are having to do all the clearing out and organising too. Until the day we move out of the house and get the dosh in the bank we will not be able to relax about everything - and the time seems to be dragging endlessley right now! Then there is the worry of banks and their safety these days................

Bx

[smitjo]

Yip we are in limbo too...been there for around two years now.....not a great place to be!!!!!:wah

Roll on September :(

[Rusty]

Limbo has many different stages, I have discovered. We had the 9 months of deep limbo while waiting for the house to sell, now we have a sale but until we have exchanged we still feel in limbo, just a different sort as we are having to do all the clearing out and organising too. Until the day we move out of the house and get the dosh in the bank we will not be able to relax about everything - and the time seems to be dragging endlessley right now! Then there is the worry of banks and their safety these days................

Bx

Would love to relax, trying my/our best.
The trouble is, after all the limbotime, I suspect there is a lot of panic and too little time to get everything organised properly.
My limbo free / panic moment crossover point will be sometime in June, I think. I hope this will include hearing from NZIS, house sale underway and giving notice at work. I try to imagine the feeling and it seems like a weight lifted followed by instant panic - weird realy.

[cathgates]

Our house buyer seems to be on a go slow at the moment and my oh is feeling very frustrated, has been for about 2 weeks, He saids this afternoon just before He went to work that he just wants to run outside and scream:wah

Cath X

[pinkninny]

Our house buyer seems to be on a go slow at the moment and my oh is feeling very frustrated, has been for about 2 weeks, He saids this afternoon just before He went to work that he just wants to run outside and scream:wah

Cath X

Screaming sounds like a good idea, after being let down by house buyers last week, i seam to be in a weird mood. just can't put my finger on it but screaming sounds like a plan. one good thing is hubby for now still has his job offer and they are being very good, but they can only hang on for so long. i'm glad i started this thread makes me feel i'm not alone.
:no

[Rusty]

Limbo, limbo, limbo, limbo - hoping if I say it enough it will become one of those meaningless words - limbo, limbo, limbo.
I know I must be patient, but if there was one little wish...it would be for the NZIS London webpage to update the processing times as it still says 'as of 15th feb we are allocating files from...'. Please update and say what they are up to now...just to give the illusion of getting closer. Looking forward to when it says 'from a date in 2008'.:roll

Well the London page has been updated and as of 21/3 they are allocating files from 16/12. Going by these dates, we are still 8 weeks from allocation, unless the Christmas break helps out?
Still, end of May is not that far away :(
I admit, the constant waiting is now getting to me too easily and I have to apologise to the kids for being a 'grumpalot' some days.
...now how many days is that going to be, take away holidays, etc ....aaarrrrggghhhh?...help :)

[caz]

Hi

Know exactly how you feel we arrived in NZ at the end of December. We sold our house and moved out on the 16 November and then stayed with family for about 6 weeks, for me that was worse than waiting to pack but it is all part of the process. We love it here, bought a great house and the kids love it, it will happen and most things will fall in to place. Good luck with the move.:cheers

[joeandsacha]

We've still got the limbo feeling. Getting worse by the day!

Still, we're making progress:

1. Passport with blue sticker has arrived.

2. I've now had a video-conference to follow up from a telephone interview for a job in Wellington, and they seem very keen so fingers crossed. Not only that, but they're willing to wait until August for me to start (to allow us to do some travelling or have some contingency if the house doesn't sell). Plus it's actually a small pay rise from what I get in the UK - result!

My wife has also found a teaching job to pursue which sounds right up her street.

3. On the house front, things aren't going so well. We'd gone to fixed price to stimulate some interest, had an offer straight away, but the survey has uncovered some problems with the roof. So now they're dragging their heels and we're contemplating getting the work done now ourselves just so we can feel like we're in control of moving things ahead.

Still itching to tell work and feeling incredibly unmotivated...

Sorry to hear you guys are all in limbo too, but it's good to know we're not the only ones!

Joe

[JayBee]

Well the London page has been updated and as of 21/3 they are allocating files from 16/12. Going by these dates, we are still 8 weeks from allocation, unless the Christmas break helps out?
...now how many days is that going to be, take away holidays, etc ....aaarrrrggghhhh?...help :)


I am glad to see I am not the only one who was looking for this update and having the same thoughts! I am now going to resist logging in again until after Easter !!

[pinkninny]

Limbo land has today got worse, i ended up in the car crying my bloody eyes out, we was so close to going a week ago and now it's fallen apart. and limbo land has got so bad as i can't see us getting to new zealand any time soon, been over two years since we 1st spoke about it and now we back to square one. all our dreams are slipping away never thought moving to NZ would be so hard. still waiting for te house to sell now thinking about dropping the price to just to get it to sell as we don't want to lose the job offer. so it's back to square one and fngers crossed the only way is now forward again.
ninny:wah

[dusk]

oh dear, poor you *hugs*

[Mels]

Loads of hugs Ninny

Mels

[Mickstim]

Big hugs Ninny - and lots of posivibes too.

Bxx

[shakyle2906]

Limbo land has today got worse, i ended up in the car crying my bloody eyes out, we was so close to going a week ago and now it's fallen apart. and limbo land has got so bad as i can't see us getting to new zealand any time soon, been over two years since we 1st spoke about it and now we back to square one. all our dreams are slipping away never thought moving to NZ would be so hard. still waiting for te house to sell now thinking about dropping the price to just to get it to sell as we don't want to lose the job offer. so it's back to square one and fngers crossed the only way is now forward again.
ninny:wah

HUGS!!!!!!!!

Things will work out, i know its easy for me to say, but they will.
This is just all part of the rolercoaster process.
Hope youre feeling bit better today ?

Take care!
Thinking of you

Sharon
xx

[JayBee]

Don't give up Pinkninny.... just keep focussed on your goal and you'll get there. These dips are part of the roller coaster ride ( we took one of those big dips last year) but you do start climbing back up again.
Take Care

[caz]

Keep thinking positive, it will happen, so get your best selling head on, we were lucky didn't have any time wasters, but we did live in Scotland and dropping out is quite costly up there. Think sell sell sell:exit

[calixfornia]

Hello fellow limbo-landers. I'm here with you too.
Had a phone interview with my CO and he said he would give me the decision in an email in a week. That was over a week ago (next Wednesday will be 2 wks). Limbo seemed like it would be over soon, but here we are... still there. Guess that's how limbo works.
Crossing fingers for all of you guys and gals :o)

[Kiwi-In-Texas]

More limbo-landers here also....Hopefully we will be out of it soon.

[Genie]

May I take this opportunity to say I hate limbo land! I keep telling myself I'm fine, remember to breathe, in, out, in, out.

Then I remember what fine stands for.

F (rude word)

Insecure

Neurotic

Exhausted

Yup, that just about sums it up.:roll

[Joolzr]

Hi Ninny

Hope things are improving for you. Hang in there.

We've been having a dip/second thoughts moment and limbo is starting to get to me. We were hoping to leave on the 22nd. But OH's registartion with the New Zealand Medical Council is delayed and on thursday our house tenant seem like they will drop out just ten days before they are supposed to move in. Yesterday, I had to leave the job I really enjoyed with lots of requests to stay/offers for a transfere etc. No idea if I'll be able to get a job in my field in Auckland...

So now we are both unemployed and having our leaving do's without knowing if/when we are really going.....

Nice to know lots of people go through this though. Thanks and good luck

J

[stevied20]

My goodness, it has been great reading this thread. We are not alone!!!!!
We are in super limbo land, everything is done.
House sold, Shipping sorted, jobs in place, kids mentally prepared, rental sorted, flights booked, employees informed, leaving do sorted, hotels booked....need something to do badly.
Leave in three months
Everybody chin up
Steve

[nickydwuk]

Still in semi - limbo land. Need to do something but can't as we are waiting for the house to sell. Been let down by our first buyers so now back on the market. Everything else is done - flights booked, holiday accomodation booked, PR approved in principle, job sorted, dog shippers booked. Just waiting now. :wah

[Rusty]

Limbo, LIMBO, LIMBOOOO, AArrrrrggghhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!

Feel a bit better now. Why can't we sell our house and go, please, come on, I want to leave my job and fly away.
I don't think this is the most stressful (I think that is to come), but it certainly is the most frustrating time waiting on someone else to buy our house so we can go. I have even started looking at re-financing and renting it for a year or so (plan Q) just so we can arrive in time to get a job before christmas, but would prefer not to rent if it can be avoided.

Rant over.
How did you all cope with trying not to think about this and get on with your life while waiting?

[Genie]

How did you all cope with trying not to think about this and get on with your life while waiting?

Rusty this implies that we had a life before this process began!! :) I know my life has gone on hold whilst waiting for buyers to sign their contracts. Can't do a darn thing until we have something on paper.

I HATE LIMBOLAND WITH A VENGANCE :mad:

[nickydwuk]

How did you all cope with trying not to think about this and get on with your life while waiting?

My OH said that one of the things he is looking forward to is being able to live a normal life and not think NZ, NZ, NZ every waking moment. Only 4 months and 5 days to go. :D

[Rusty]

We could end up on the same plane. We want to fly mid-september, IF we sell the house in time.:(

[nickydwuk]

We could end up on the same plane. We want to fly mid-september, IF we sell the house in time.:(

We fly on 19th Sept with SA. Any idea when you're flying and who with?

[Mels]

hitting the chocolate buttons today

Feeling glum

Mels

[JayBee]

hitting the chocolate buttons today

Feeling glum

Mels

Must be catching - I'm really grumpy today!! At least Thorntons were on offer today (I think it's thinking about the house, for me ) Any news on your ITA yet Mels?

[Rusty]

Nicky, not booked flights yet, waiting until house is sold. The plan is to use SA and was hoped to be mid-sept.

Jaybee, know how you feel, although yesterday was the worst. Just need to sell the house so everything else can move on.

[Mels]

Just got the medical queries yesterday, seeing GP tonight and trying to get more info from a specialist. It will take another 3 weeks once reports back with NZIS, but a step forwards I guess.

Tried Thorntons, don't tell the dentist though :roll I like their chocolate covered toffee best.
Yes house issue still there too.

Just keep going Jaybee, bit like 'Finding Nemo', what was that angel fish called. She always said just keep swimming and could never remember anything?

Mels

[JayBee]

Sorry to hear you're going through all that hassle Mels - still like we all know deep down, if we just keep on "swimming" in the right direction we'll all get there in the end. Best of Luck tonight with the GP.

(Just hope the Thornton's don't undo all the inches and pounds we lost for our medicals!!!It's a rather scrummy looking selection)

[Mels]

(Just hope the Thornton's don't undo all the inches and pounds we lost for our medicals!!!It's a rather scrummy looking selection)

ooppps too late now!!!!!! :exit

Mels

[Carey]

Hurrah, at least something's happening but frustrating for you all

[Mels]

Just been to see my GP, no problems he will write letter even though he is going on hols tomorrow so should have letter next week, now just got to organise specialist tomorrow.
Then comes the difficult bit - I have to be patient again for a few weeks, not so good at that bit and had to do a lot of it lately :(

But you never know, in that time we might get to sell our house - fingers, toes, teeth, eyelashes crossed :)

Mels

[thewoodies]

We have had loads of viewings have dropped the price by 15k but people are still nervous to make the commitment!!!!:now looks like we will have to rent out. Feel depressed is this the 90s all over again???? negative equity for many everyone broke and depressed.???? I was living abroad in the early 90s and came home to find out my flat was worth 8k less than i paid for it didnt even know the recession had hit (only had portuguese tv i couldnt understand!!! sky was only for the really rich out there then.) if we rent it out will i have to wait 9 years to get back to a few months ago like before??? Our equity was going to buy our dream piece of land. just want to get there are thinking nov time before flights go up in december so we are there for start of year for schools end of jan/feb im a teacher. Why is it whenever i try and do something the economy or govt works against me - ate loads of chocolate today

[Mels]

Why is it whenever i try and do something the economy or govt works against me - ate loads of chocolate today

I feel the same and I ate a load of chocolate so now I feel guilty too :(

Have some cyber hugs, they don't have any calories.

Mels

[mazzie]

I feel the same and I ate a load of chocolate so now I feel guilty too :(

Have some cyber hugs, they don't have any calories.

Mels

Hi everyone,

We are also in limboland, but I can't eat chocolate to make me feel better, I wish I could. Hope you all don't mind, but I need to rant too.

Our limboland is caused because I probably ate too much chocolate in the past and now we are both suffering for it. I know how everyone here is feeling and it's a horrible feeling, so I do hope things go right for you all.

My OH contacted a Company in NZ by email about a job on March 29, 2008. The very same day they phoned him and had a chat with him for 30 mins, then they spoke to me for 30 mins and the next day they emailed to say they wanted him to work for them. They are an accredited employer so they are used to bringing people over from other Countries. By April 30th, we had completed everything, going on a WTR permit, medicals, chest x-rays, police clearance certificates from both the UK and Canada, etc., etc. Immigration NZ received our application on their desks on May 1st. Total time 4 weeks from beginning to end. Everything went smoothly and extremely quickly for us without any hitches and we have even had the shippers in for quotes. I thought things were too good to be true.

Since Immigration NZ have had the documents, we are now in limboland. No problem for my OH, they have told us that he can get his Visa without any problems, but me, well my medical has gone to a medical assessor for evaluation because my BMI is 39 and we have now been told that we have to wait 2-8 weeks for a decision.

It's 2 weeks now and I am going crazy, our whole life and future is now in someone else's hands. Someone who doesn't even know us, has never met us and they are going to make a decision on whether we stay here or go to NZ.

We are lucky, we rent here so don't have a place to sell and we are ready to go immediately. No kids, no pets, no strings. Just my fat body stopping us. I am so mad with myself, I keep telling myself that I am going to ruin my husbands prospects of having a great job. Of course I am losing weight, I have been losing weight for a while now and last week I lost 2.5 lbs and I shall carry on losing weight, but I feel so guilty because it will be my fault if they say no.

I haven't seen anyone on this forum passed with a BMI of 39 so I don't know what's going to happen. Does anyone know if I get deferred does that mean I will have to go through all the medicals again etc?

Anyways, enough of my ranting, I just wish I could feel better. My OH is great and after 22 years of marriage he isn't going to blame me or leave me, but that doesn't help to make me feel any better.

:cheers

Mazzie

[Mels]

Mazzie, I know just how you feel regarding 'your future and life in someone else's hands'. You can see from my timeline it's not a quick process even with job offer. Just hang on in there. We have got to the medical quieries stage and I am probably going on over-kill and getting more info than they have asked for, but I just want that decision made so getting two more specialist letters and GP's. Hopefully have all the info by end of next week to return - then wait 3 weeks again for decision.

Just keep going

Mels

[mazzie]

Thanks for the support Mels. I have sent you a PM, hope you don't mind.

It would have been an extremely quick process though if it wasn't for me being overweight. Grrrrrrrrr, I am still mad with myself. :wah

[Carey]

Don't be too hard on yourself Mazzie, you are as you are and you KNOW they wanted you after talking to you, so it's superficial your size, alth' they have their rules like everyone else. But be positive as you are already and better to be on the high side with your BMI than the low (speaking as someone who had a weight problem the other way and now having problems with low bone density) and having to get medical reports for that.
Good luck!

[mazzie]

Thanks Carey, but it's not me that's getting the job, it's my OH. I am not the principal applicant. It's not the company that's the problem, they will hold the job for my OH I believe, as it's such a specialized job they can't get anyone to do it. They even sent INZ a letter to say that my OH is highly skilled and that NZ desperately needs more skilled people like him and that we will have private medical insurance immediately we land in NZ. However, the INZ have told me the following; "Unfortunately the fact that you have private medical care does not effect the outcome of your medical assessment so at this stage it is irrelevant. An applicant must be assessed as having an acceptable standard of health no matter what insurance is held."

So there we have it and we just have to wait and see I guess.

Mazzie

[JayBee]

Keep going Mazzie - there's nothing like the motivation of this process to lose the weight and inches. I think you'll find that Pollyanna is also trying to lose weight as a result of the BMI/medical so you are certainly not alone. And there are plenty more of us who have shed their share of pounds and inches, detoxed, lowered cholesterol and blood pressure etc etc in order to get through!!

[mazzie]

Keep going Mazzie - there's nothing like the motivation of this process to lose the weight and inches. I think you'll find that Pollyanna is also trying to lose weight as a result of the BMI/medical so you are certainly not alone. And there are plenty more of us who have shed their share of pounds and inches, detoxed, lowered cholesterol and blood pressure etc etc in order to get through!!

Thanks Jaybee and I am sorry to the person who started this thread, I didn't mean to hijack it.

Have you any idea what happened to Pollyana, Jaybee? Did she get deferred? If so, do you know how long for, or any details? If I get deferred, will I have to do everything again? I have so many questions and don't know where to get the answers, so anyone that can help, I am most grateful to.

Thanks again everyone.

Mazzie

[JayBee]

Sent you a pm Mazzie.

[Rusty]

Hello everyone still here in Limboland.Just an update that we feel a little better now we are advertising our house for rent as well - seems like we are doing something about moving and it's helping us relax a bit. Still hope to leave in 10-12 weeks and know just how much stress and work that will involve, but just not thinking too much about that until something happens with the house.Hope you have found distractions from this frustrating world we are stuck in.