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holland
18th May 2008, 03:04 PM
Hi all,

Thought I should probably do our 6 month post...I will try to be as honest as possible....so hope I don't get shot down for some comments...as this is just from our perspective...and these perspectives change on a daily basis!!

Ok...we both have full time jobs, on reasonable money. We have both found it difficult to settle into our jobs and I think we would both say we are both still going through the 'settling' phase. I become frustrated at the amount of time it takes me to get my head around things at work....its almost like my brain has decided 'nope...you have retained too much information this week...so I am stopping you retaining anymore!'...this usually revolves around names!:D On the whole, we both work for great companies, we have been treated well and feel supported in our transition over here.

We are renting at the moment, in a lovely house over the road from the beach...we love the area...however, we have a railway line, highway and airport at the back of us, so we haven't had a full nights sleep since we have been here...move I hear you cry....we have looked...and can't find anything as nice so we are staying here for the time being, as the house does tick boxes in other areas. WOW...the temperature now we are getting into winter is interesting....cold, cold, cold to be exact! I would like to point out that I ( J) am writing this..if my hubby was writing it he probably wouldn't say it was that bad....I come in from work...start layering up ( literally) and then sit on top of the wall heater for the evening! I jest you not!

House hunting-we have been looking everywhere for houses for the last 2 months and haven't found one we like....we are fussy! I struggle with the fact that most of the houses are one level...and wooden..and a lot are sectioned off...all of these things I knew before I came over here, but it is different when you are deciding which one to put your well earned money into. I would like to say to those that are yet to come over here, I used to panic and think we would not be able to 'guage' the 'areas'...good area to live in/not so good area...but I have to say I had that sussed in the first couple of weeks, so don't worry about that !

I still look faint when I go shopping and they say '$250.00 please'...I don't know why I look faint as I was spending the equivalent at home! I didn't like food shopping in the UK, but I have to say here is is awful....I personally don't feel like there is much choice, supermarkets are small, and I don't think the offers are that good. However...I can always find a parking space...the shop assistants are friendly, I don't have to line up at the till and there is plenty of room in the isles...as it's quite!

Outdoor life- this is the main reason we came over here...hubby has a fishing rod which he uses very very regularly..living over the road from the beach, we go on bike rides, we go off on walks at the weekend, to amazing places, that have stunning views and amazing birds. We arrived here in the summer and we didnt watch tv for the first 3 months...I kid you not!

Weather-as expected...absolutely fantastic summer, glorious sunshine everyday. Just approaching winter, cold in the morning and at night, however still glorious sunshine throughout the days.


Last but not least family and friends...mmmm.I have to say the phone and internet are fab, I don't know that I could of made this move without them. I came over thinking I would be in tears everyday missing my family, and I have to say that I miss them terribly...but I don't cry all the time! I speak to my mum everyday, and she is really struggling, crying and awake during the night...I have a lot of guilt around this and it does play on my mind...but speaking on the phone and hearing her voice makes it a lot easier. We do have a webcam, but she cant bear to see me on it yet as she is happy being denial that I am around the corner! The time difference is a huge thing, I plan my nights/early mornings around phone calls.

So all in all.....We have been here 6 months and it feels like 10 years...this isn't in a bad way...just feels like a lifetime ago that we were at home.

Would hubby go back home? NO NO NO

Would I go back home? Not at the moment, I like it out here.

I will be interested to see how this post comes across when I read it back...I hope it isn't too negative, as we do enjoy life out here...but there are parts that are difficult!

J and G xx

PS- I could have written this post yesterday/tonight/tomorrow and the content would probably be different....as I do go 'up and down' with my views on this adventure!!!!:D

PPS- My advice to others would be...make the most of this forum and the friends you can meet...I used to sit at home in the UK and wonder whether I would actually meet these 'virtual friends'....and you do....it is wonderful to have people on the other end of the phone for advice/to listen to you whinge...when all your family are asleep!! Thanks to all my buddies...you know who you are:D

Georgebulldog
18th May 2008, 04:34 PM
Great post, doesn't sound negative at all, all the things most people face I think
Good luck with the next 6 months :)

Familyofmonkeys
18th May 2008, 05:39 PM
Good post :nice1

slider
18th May 2008, 06:02 PM
Great post. Not negative at all, just very honest. And remember, every one of us has OUR opinion and I'm sure that we are all correct. :D

Sounds like you are settling in well to your new surroundings. Look forward to the 12 month update :nice1

NZ Hopeful
18th May 2008, 06:04 PM
That doesn't come across as negative at all Jade, it sounds perfectly normal for someone who has moved 12,000 miles! If everything was the same as the UK why would anyone move?!

I'm so glad you are, on the whole, enjoying it after all you went through to get there. :)

StevieD
18th May 2008, 06:05 PM
Good post guys, you seem to have settled nicely, and are getting to realise this.

pinkpiggy
18th May 2008, 06:13 PM
J, I don't think your post comes across as negative. It is honest and realistic. You have found out what things you like and what you don't like and for the moment you are enjoying life in NZ.

peebles16
18th May 2008, 06:39 PM
Great post Jade dead upfront and honest - just what we like to hear :D
Good to hear how things are working out for you and G so keep posting :)

Karenx

P.S. have to go a spread some rep around before I can give you some again :(

Belmont Babes
18th May 2008, 07:02 PM
Hi Jade

What a great post! Honest and from the heart. Hope you are feeling better X

LesleyS
18th May 2008, 07:09 PM
Your feelings are just the same as mine! Take today, we have been out all day in the most glorious sunshine to Waihi Beach which was almost deserted. We climbed the surrounding hills to glimpse the most wonderful panoramic views of the Pacific, and the accompanying flora and fauna. Priceless!! Very happy!

Tomorrow I wil probably be a little down again, as OH is working away for the week in the Coromandel - leaving me home alone with child for the entire week in cold damp iffy rental!

No two days are ever the same for me either, it is an emotional rollercoaster to feeling more settled, but at least you seem to be both heading in the right direction - well done!

jackie m
18th May 2008, 07:19 PM
Great Honest post Jade look foward to your 12 month one.

Jackie

lockstock
18th May 2008, 07:25 PM
Sounds so familiar! Nice and real Jade - keep it that way. It's good.

zardell
18th May 2008, 07:31 PM
I could have written this post yesterday/tonight/tomorrow and the content would probably be different....as I do go 'up and down' with my views on this adventure.


Excellent post Jade.

I have to say that I believe a big part of the settling in period is coming to terms with the fact that most of the hard work is done and all that we have left to do is to get on with our lives.

Bit of an anti-climax to months (maybe years) of planning.

No wonder things are 'up and down' for a while eh?

Julie

xx

Tia Maria
18th May 2008, 07:38 PM
Yep, have to agree with you about the houses, I long for stairs, heating and privacy. Also agree about the 'changing your mind every day', at 6 months I seemed to either love or hate things. I loved the beach, hated the houses, loved the schools, hated...... errrr the houses.... :p

I was talking to someone today, (one of those forum buddies that you really do meet!), and we were both commenting how true the 'wait 2 years to settle' comment is. I know people say it all the time, but it really is the time span when NZ starts to feel familiar and your previous home, starts to feel more distant.

It doesn't mean you'll love NZ if you stay 2 years, but more that you'll accept it, warts and all, as you've built up a network of friends, a familiarity with the area and have an idea of what you can achieve job and house wise.

Great post, I'll rep you if I can!

Cheers

Tia

JayBee
18th May 2008, 08:37 PM
Thanks for the post - not negative at all, just honest. Glad you commented on noise and cold issues. We looked at houses on our recce and thought the airport side could be noisy and wondered if the houses did need heating during winter - so thanks for confirming a few things!

Best of luck and look forward to more updates!!

JandM
18th May 2008, 08:47 PM
:cheers Your post sounds very 'human', and that you're looking things squarely in the face.

Carey
18th May 2008, 08:56 PM
Great to hear how you are finding it and of course can't believe its 6 months already!

vixxann
18th May 2008, 09:11 PM
Great post Jade - very evenly spread I thought. Not everything can be instantly wonderful and things are bound to be up and down. You seem to have grasped it all pretty well for the time being - keep going :nice1

willsken
18th May 2008, 09:34 PM
Great post! The first 6 months are so hard. Getting used to everything and getting used to the not so good things is even harder!! What we all need to do is give it time and decide if the not so good things are less than than the benefits of making the move and go from there. Keeping everything crossed things work out well for you. :nice1

Scotty69
18th May 2008, 09:56 PM
Great post Holland, cant believe its 6 months already:nice1

Natasha

benandclare
18th May 2008, 10:03 PM
Cheers for sharing with us Jade.

Not sure about missing the stairs Tia as tried to run up the ones at the golf club today and fell flat on my face :D:D

Ben

peebles16
18th May 2008, 10:44 PM
That'll be too many of these Ben :cheers:cheers

Karenx

river11
18th May 2008, 11:10 PM
Great post and it didn't sound too negative at all...

dusk
18th May 2008, 11:18 PM
great post Jade, and some handy tips - thanks :D

Den
20th May 2008, 04:57 PM
I thought it was a great post too - thankyou for letting us know and I'm glad that some of the feelings we have are "normal".
I'm feeling a bit isolated, and with no second vehicle yet and OH at work all week....well you can imagine. The internet inc this forum, phone are my lifeline. Feel more reliant on OH than I used to - what with him being a kiwi and having all his family out here. Not sure I like the feeling!

dilanium
21st May 2008, 12:03 AM
Great Post Jade, Very upfront and honest.

thank you.

CityBlue
21st May 2008, 08:21 AM
Good post - first 6 months is hard but I reckon you will only realise how hard it was and how well you coped when you look back on things in another 6 months or so

mgbridges
21st May 2008, 09:51 AM
Thanks for your post Jade, very balanced and said a lot of what I would have said at 6mths had I found time to do a 6mth post.

Anneliese

nickydwuk
21st May 2008, 11:50 PM
Good post for all us 'wannabees' to read. Shows it is not all plain sailing but it takes hard work & determination to make a life and as with anything - new job, new home etc... the first 6 -12 months are always the hardest as you find your feet. I am not expecting it to all be roses when we first arrive and your post reflects that. Thanks :nice1

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