[cryptic]

Evening All.

Is it just me or is everyone fed up with getting up earlier, to leave earlier, to miss the traffic, on busier roads, with dearer and dearer fuel, to get to work , to do more for less, to arrive home later, to a faster dinner, to spend less time with the children and all this to have a shorter weekend and to spend half of Sunday in the new church -TESCO?

We seem to have a shorter and shorter fuse when it comes to the children -It's not their fault.

I wake up and as soon as I swing my pins round my head is full of where to go, what to do, who to do it to, and how much it will cost - to name but a few.

I don't need all this crap -life is for living.

Everyone in the street seems to be out fo themselves and it's only your next door neighbours that know you.

Maybe it's just my family but that's one reason to go!
It's the friends that you can call on at the drop of a hat that will be missed. Seriously nothing else.

Am I sad in looking at houses on the web and dreaming?

I reaslly don't want to play this game any more.

Nowhere's perfect but why spend all your life with what ifs going round in your head.
Like many other people am I mad or sad in going or mad or sad in staying?

I feel a little better for having a rant.

Sorry for putting a downer on the country but the whole system is going to pot and one day it will implode.

looking forward to increase the intelligence of one country and decreasing it in another (you work it out)

TTFN

Cryptic:exit

[adkck]

Hi and welcome to there forum!! :)

Your post and everything you wrote are the exact reasons why my hubby and I are leaving the United States. It just gets worse and worse here and it is going to continue to do so IMO.

Hang in there. :nice1

[essjayo]

Hi Cryptic & welcome.

I think you're right. I don't want my 2 year old to grow up in a country like this, what a shame that we now think this of the UK, kids with knives, etc the list goes on. Our friends are off to Oz and we chose NZ. Onwards and upwards.

[slider]

Hello, and welcome to the forum :)

It's good to rant sometimes - just look on it as a form of stress relief that isn't going to get you locked up ;)

[JandM]

Hello.:)

[Leanne]

Hello and best of luck with your plans.

[CJ22]

Knife crime in the UK has fallen, as has violent crime generally. The main problem with crime in the UK is that we allow our media to get hysterical about it.

You make excellent points otherwise. But the whole of the UK is not like central London or the other urban centres. There's a more grounded life to be had in large swathes of it, and even room to breathe if you're prepared to look.

[victoria24]

love the intro cryptic. where are you in the uk?

[AndyR]

welcome to the forum! A good rant is a nice way to start! I hope you find a place you will be happy with.

[kiwidollie]

I felt a lot like you before I went to New Zealand. A lot of the reasons you list are things that I thought would be different over there. Life is life wherever you are. Violent people exist wherever you go. We moved to a small town hoping for a more relaxed, safer life for our kids. My son was so bored at school and could not see any sign of things improving he longed to be challenged academically as he is now that we're back in the UK.

Rape and assault happened just a few streets away from where we lived - I felt less safe than I ever have in the UK. Reports of children being abused and neglected, even killed seemed to be on the news every night.

When the junior school gave each child a box of chocolate bars to sell as a fund raiser for the school, one of the kids was punched in the face by a man on his way home and had his bars stolen!

You have to make up your own mind about what you want, as we all do, but please don't think that New Zealand is some peaceful Utopia where nothing bad ever happens.

Having returned to the UK after 6 months in NZ mine and my children's lives are so much better than they ever were. A lot of the problems are in the way we think about stuff, how we perceive it and the media do distort things and make us feel that the UK is some crime infested hell hole, over run with illegal immigrants etc where there is knife crime on every street and the whole country is going to the dogs etc. Sometimes you just need to look at the same picture with fresh eyes to see what's really there.

God, sorry for the rant but I recognised a lot of what you said in your post and know what it's like to have my illusions shattered.

Best of luck with everything though and you'll follow the path that you're meant to follow :0)

[StevieD]

Interesting first post!! Welcome to the forum. Yes, it is easy to think like this, especially if you embroiled in it on a day to day basis. And yes, bad things do happen here, it is inhabited by human beings after all!

But, living where we are is a lot nicer, lot more laid back, but not everyone has the same experience or ideals. We quite happy to get along with things and get stuck in, and up to now this has stood us in good stead.

Are we happier here than UK? Definitely. The kids are thriving in their school life, socially and in their sporting lives. We have a good circle of friends who help each other when they can, often more than family ever did.

But not everyone has good experiences, that goes for anywhere, doesn't necessarily mean it is NZ's fault that people don't make it, or that it is their fault either, we are all made different and have different circumstances/expectations.

The best of luck to you all.

Steve

[Red Devil]

I felt a lot like you before I went to New Zealand. A lot of the reasons you list are things that I thought would be different over there. Life is life wherever you are. Violent people exist wherever you go...

Please don't think that New Zealand is some peaceful Utopia where nothing bad ever happens...

God, sorry for the rant but I recognised a lot of what you said in your post and know what it's like to have my illusions shattered.

Interesting points and one's that I'm sure many folk will need to take on board before committing themselves.

[Kiwi-In-Texas]

Hello and welcome.




Suzanne.

[Janey]

Hello and welcome I feel exactly the same my short recce fuellled mw with go and now one week one and back in the UK I have hit rock bottom I feel the rope is getting tighter and tighter around me I feel trapped and see no way out and the moment which is suffocating good luck to you in your quest lets hope it goes smoothly

[willsken]

Evening All.

Is it just me or is everyone fed up with getting up earlier, to leave earlier, to miss the traffic, on busier roads, with dearer and dearer fuel, to get to work , to do more for less, to arrive home later, to a faster dinner, to spend less time with the children and all this to have a shorter weekend and to spend half of Sunday in the new church -TESCO?

We seem to have a shorter and shorter fuse when it comes to the children -It's not their fault.

I wake up and as soon as I swing my pins round my head is full of where to go, what to do, who to do it to, and how much it will cost - to name but a few.

I don't need all this crap -life is for living.



That is exactly how I felt living in the UK and living in NZ for the past 18 months has given me the peace I wanted. My whole life is so much slower and more relaxed . It doesn't happen for everyone, I know that, but as a family we have been lucky and the move has been all we wanted. :yes

[cryptic]

love the intro cryptic. where are you in the uk?


Hi Victoria24,
Is 24 the ammount of thundreds of thousands of pounds you'll be converting into N.Z dollars?
Can't wait to leave-every day is too long here.
What part of N.Z are you interested in?
This is the third time of trying to send this reply.I've just been overtaken by a snail on the super highway!
As we all get faster I guess some things must get slower.

TTFN

CRYPTIC

Stand up for something or you'll fall for anything.

[castleclan]

Welcome Cryptic, Not watching the news so often has helped me get out of hearing all the bad stuff so often so readjusting to thinking that actually where I live isn't all bad. (but I'd still rather be elsewhere!)
Good luck with your plans

[Leccy-Lee]

Is it just me or is everyone fed up with getting up earlier, to leave earlier, to miss the traffic, on busier roads, with dearer and dearer fuel, to get to work , to do more for less, to arrive home later, to a faster dinner.

You've described my journey to work everyday and thats here in New Zealand! :(

PS: Tesco's, the new church? thats almost a reason to go home, i quite fancy kneeling and praying to the blue stripey "home brand" alter :laugh

Ah its been too long.. Somebody send me a Tescos bag...lol

Welcome....

[cryptic]

Evening All,
Further to my other rant recently, the only people I will miss when we leave more than our friends, will be the children of our friends. I love them-I used to be one once, though my present wife will say that I am still one now!

The wife of the other peeps we know that are doing the decent thing would leave now like myself and she thinks it's the best thing she has done.

In all my searching of the web trying to find somewhere that covers everything this has to be the best. It is good to find solice and comfort in other peeps experiences and situations.

Thank you all

Cryptic

Stand up for something or you will fall for anything!:exit