[klicker]

THe day has come today and we have said an emotional goodbye to my husband who is on his way now to wellington to start his new job and life !! I will follow with the kids next june and i cant wait !!! But its such a long time.... I am staying here, because daughter no 1 (have 4 kids ) is finishing her a levels next year and we felt we owe her that much to let her finish them !!So hopefully we ll all go together to NZ in 2009!! Half of our belongings is already on a container somewhere on its way !!!Just hope hubs will have a fantastic time in wellington and make lots of new friends and will find a nice new home and area for all of us !!Can you trust a man to do that ?? haha he will be fine !! so its countdown for me, crossing everyday off till june and enjoy our last year in the UK !! But.... am abit scared about being a single mom till then.... missing him already ....soo much !! sorry for sounding pathetic already !!

[Mrs Pony]

You will be back together in no time! I'm sure some days will drag but when the time comes for you to leave you will think that it has flow by!

[cani]

Hello and welcome, time goes quickly and next June you'll wonder where it went when you have the happy family reunion in NZ. Good luck.:)

[JandM]

Welcome to the forum,:) and all the best for while you're finishing out your time in the UK.

[shakyle2906]

Hi Klicker

It must be hard being apart but try and think positive, its only a few monthes out of your lives and you will get through it I am sure (says her that prob would feel totally devastated too!!).

I am sue the time will fly by and think, by the time you get here, he would have somewhere for you all to live so thats a great help in itself.

I am sure your daughter will thank you for not uprooting her at this time, its such an important time in her life.

Good luck and i am sure no one will mind you having a moan from time to time!

Sharon
xx

[nickydwuk]

Good luck to you both - you are so brave. At least when you arrive you will have somewhere to stay immediately and the kids will have a base straight away. It will be hard for both of you but I am sure it will be worth it in the end. And we will all be here to help support you through it all. :yes

[TrentBridge]

I really admire what you are all doing Klicker. I'm sure you will get a lot of support from this forum if you need it.

We are in a similar position in that our eldest will complete A levels next year and youngest will complete GCSE's so we are waiting until next summer to go (all being well). We may well end up in the same boat as you if OH gets a job and PR before then he may go first and I will be left here until summer. i quite like the idea of having somewhere and someone waiting for me if he does go first. Not sure if I would trust him to buy a house for us, but a rental would be okay!!

Hope all goes well for you all. :nice1

[Belmont Babes]

Hi Klicker.

Well done and hats off to you. I too think you are one brave person and your kids should be proud to have such fab parents who put them first etc. Just check in here for support I am sure there will be oodles of it for you. All the best and hoping the time really will fly for you. :)
Nat

[Kerry and David]

Gosh I feel terrible now moaning about being apart from my hubbie for 3 weeks:o thinking of you and I admire you for making the decission to go seperate.With regards to trusting OH to find a house - the internet is a wonderful thing. My OH is also looking for a house - I look up ones that I think are suitable and send him to look;)

Good luck

Kerry x

[Nienke]

I know how you feel, more than 2 years ago we were apart for 3,5 months. Hang in there, june 09 will arrive before you know it!

[Carol]

Gosh!
That IS a long time....

If he wants to make a connection in Welly my man is in IT here too.
He's always up for a pint!
:nice1

[Hejwitch_uk]

Total respect to you for putting the children's needs first, and finding a way that works for you ALL. Well done. :nice1

[JayBee]

Hi there - hopefully the time will go faster than you think with so much going on for all your family. You'll find lots of support on here and once OH is settled if you get skype to see and talk to each other with...the distance will seem much smaller.
Good luck

[dusk]

Hello and welcome. Best of luck with the waiting, sure it will be worth the wait for you, your eldest and the rest of the family :D

[klicker]

Sniff ...everybodys support made me drop a few tears on the computer...thank you sooo much !! Just if i tell friends &family about how i feel, i am worried they will just say...well you wanted to go to NZ !!! So cant really moan or complain too much !! But the kids are brilliant and i will devoute my time to make" the 10 months " really special ..(well not tooo special, otherwise they maybe change their mind about going to NZ.. !!)Thanks again!!xx

[YouMeAndThree]

I was a forces wife up till 2 years ago and I only had to endure one 4 month posting without OH, so ((((hugs)))) to you for having to do 10mths. At the time I was pregnant with my 2nd daughter and my eldest was only 8mths. It was quite a stressful time (he was in Iraq), but there were various things that got us through. We would both write to each other as often as we could - getting a letter off a loved one is something very special and I think is missing in today's internet world. Admittedly I could send these by a secure internet system, but he would receive them in a sealed envelope - I also use to send letters via snail mail too. He was allowed 20 minutes a week of phone time, but he would try and use this to speak to our step-daughters (or rather his daughters from his 1st marriage), so we spent a lot of his spare time 'chatting' on MSN. Despite this, I still managed to fill a side or 2 of A4 paper in a letter. I would imagine it's going to be hard on your OH as you'll have your family and familiar surrounds all around, so try and get your children mail him too. It will lift his spirits I'm sure to see a letter from home drop through the letter box (or into the mail box by the road!)

My OH left on 13 August and I fly out on 13th Sept with our 3 girls - so far we've not really missed him (is that bad :laugh) as we get to see him every morning and evening via skype. I've been left with so much to do regarding the house, that I don't have time to dwell on my own thoughts. I hate the everyday childcare on my own though - especially come dinner and bath time :wah

You've got lots of goals to meet along the way and as you tick off each one no doubt the time will fly by.

Best of luck

Lx

[Mrs Pony]

Sniff ...everybodys support made me drop a few tears on the computer...thank you sooo much !! Just if i tell friends &family about how i feel, i am worried they will just say...well you wanted to go to NZ !!! So cant really moan or complain too much !! But the kids are brilliant and i will devoute my time to make" the 10 months " really special ..(well not tooo special, otherwise they maybe change their mind about going to NZ.. !!)Thanks again!!xx

youmeandthree had some good ideas! talking online with a webcam would help you out i think! OH and I did that when he was still in NZ before he came back and we started dating.

I know what you mean about talking to family about moving... my parents/siblings aren't too happy about it (can't blame them, I'm the baby) but it does hurt when they aren't being supportive...but that's what you have us for!!

[thewoodies]

Well done for being a fab mum! I hope your kids appreciate the sacrifice (if they dont now - they will) !!!!!!!

I have a 17 year old so my sympathies :wah:mad::laugh!!!!!!!!

GCSE and A levels at the same time!!!! let alone trying to emigrate!! !!!!!

Good Luck:cheers