[wilson182]

Not had a very good week this week

Hubby is finding that wonderfull laid back Kiwi attitude very hard to deal with at work, and is very stressed at the mo. He has had to work late tonight, cause they took so long to make a decision about something, and its his birthday :(

On top of that we had to have our pet rat put to sleep yesterday as he was very unwell..and every spare cent we have at the moment is being spent on furniture.

Sometimes the challenge we have set ourselves just about knocks me off my feet....

[MB]

Firstly, so sorry about your pet. We know what it is like to be in something like the position you seem to have found yourself in recently - PM us if you like, anytime.

I've just been browsing your Web site, and what comes across to me is what a family you are and what a vigourous adventure you have lined up for yourselves. And it sure seems to feel like a big challenge right now, I can tell!

What kind of furniture are you buying? Chairs? Tables? Clocks? Carpets? I'm just wondering; no big reason. Anyway, an interesting thing about it is that after a few seconds what you see in your own furniture, even (perhaps especially) when it's not being used, is the life and colour that it supports. So cheap 'n' cheerful or pricey, I'm sure whatever you choose will be terrific.

All the very best - hope to see you guys one day,
Matt and family.

[Terry&Sophie]

Hi Wilson,

I can understand what your husband is going through with the kiwi attitude at work. It probably works more in my favour at my level (not so much pressure or expectation), but I can see it getting very frustrating if you're more involved in management, especially when it makes you late home on your birthday! :no I've met others who are frustrated by the laid-back attitude to work, best thing to do (if you can, not always possible though, I know) is to go along with it and try not to stress.

Sorry to hear about your rat too, it's harsh to lose a pet when you're already going through so much change.

Hope things get better for you soon

Sophie

[sarahw]

Hi Wilson,

Many sympathies for the loss of your rat - its not nice when an animal becomes part of the family & its ill.

Ian is finding the Kiwi attitude to work very strange too - he's had a lot of trouble adjusting so we do understand what your hubby is going through. Feel free to PM us if you want some reassurance!

I know when you first move over it feels like cash is being spent left-right & centre - we're only just getting ourselves on our feet & it can feel really quite upsetting when you don't have anyone else but each other to let out steam on as you want to support each other. Please, again, feel free to PM me & let off some steam!!! Where abouts are you based? If you're close to Wellington then maybe we could meet up for a coffee & a chat.

Take care!

[Diny]

Sorry to hear your bad news. Losing a pet is never a nice experience, we get very attached to them don't we?

I have always read your posts with much interest, you've always seemed to be embracing your move and meeting everything head on. However, we all have our down moments. I don't think any of us go through life without sitting from time to time and thinking 'what the hell have I done'. I'm sure this is just a short negative period you are in and that it'll soon pass. Like the others have said, please feel free to PM me any time.

As for the laid back Kiwi attitude. Some times it can be quite refreshing .... to see people manage their work and lives at such a steady pace. But at times it can annoy the hell out of you too. I know I'll maybe get abit of flack for saying this, but sometimes I think the laidback attitude is just another name for 'lazy'. Maybe that sounds abit harsh but I'm sure you know what I mean.

Chin up old gal !!! Hope you start to feel better soon, remember the support that's available on this forum :nice1

Diny

[kiwidebs]

As for the laid back Kiwi attitude. Some times it can be quite refreshing .... to see people manage their work and lives at such a steady pace. But at times it can annoy the hell out of you too. I know I'll maybe get abit of flack for saying this, but sometimes I think the laidback attitude is just another name for 'lazy'.
Diny

In some cases you may well be right Diny :? . However, think of this as the flip side of the wonderful laid back Kiwi attitude people move to NZ to enjoy - unfortunately it doesn't turn off just when you want it to.

Wilson, so sorry to hear about your rat. It's so hard losing a pet. I'm also sorry to see you having some down moments as you always seem so upbeat and positive on here. But I guess with such a big move there is always going to be times when it really gets to you. Hope its all on the up for you again soon :hopeso .

Debs :yes

[wilson182]

Thank you all very much for your replies and good wishes. Diny you are right, I think I'm just having one of those OH MY GOD moments.

[Annierobrigado]

surely if you are in a position to call in something, you can say, hey, can we break from the tea break and lets get on with this project/job/meeting? We might mention the fact that there are clients waiting for our decision... would that shake the kiwis out of their laidback attitude?

I suppose if you've been used to a rat race, a turtle race would be shocking. :wah but in any case, happy birthday to wilson's husband!

I don't know how to say my sympathies to a pet rat, because I have 3 cats and 5 dogs... errr... sorry.
:no

cheer up!
annie

[Diny]

In some cases you may well be right Diny . However, think of this as the flip side of the wonderful laid back Kiwi attitude people move to NZ to enjoy - unfortunately it doesn't turn off just when you want it to.


True, and I for one would never expect anybody to change or turn their personality on or off just because I wanted them to. But that doesn't alter the fact that there's going to be some things that 'go against the grain' when you move to a new place. It's only natural when you're feeling abit down that you're going to pick up on little things that aggrivate and blow them out of all proportion. We're only human after all. :nice1

Diny

[kiwidollie]

Sorry to hear about your pet. Always very upsetting to lose a furry friend.

I'm sure you'll bounce back up in no time at all - you seem to be a very up beat sort of person.

At the end of the day it is a massive thing that you have done and are continuing to do. Uprooting your whole life and starting again thousands of miles away is a big deal in anybody's book

Good on you I say!

Belated Happy Birthday to your Hubby :cheers