[mgf]

Well we have made it over the year mark. What a stressful year that has been. Oldest daughter not settling well actually wanting to return back to the States to go to University. Younger daughter seems to have made transition well doing good. I have my up and down moments. Thinking of returning back to the States as well missing friends and family there. Not real happy in the job here but have 7 more months on contract. Feeling depressed and can't seem to kick out of it. I think a lot having to do with being torn about wanting to be here but really missing family and friends. I have made some friends here and have a weekly outing but finding it difficulty to adjust.

[Janey]

cyber hugs know exactly how you feel OH is extremley down I am finding I have my moments I do like my job and who I work with but just wonder if it is an expensive mistake!

[Helsandfamily]

Hugs from me too

It can be dreadfully lonely being away from family and friends. 15 months is a long time to feel unhappy, I have no advice but wish you well

hels

[JandM]

It's very brave of both of you to post so honestly. I hope it'll be something of a relief to say openly what you've been thinking, and that you'll get to be content again, one way or another.

[irishliz]

No advise but a recce for us back to the UK helped enormously. And your daughter's decision will probably have a bearing as well.

And I also examined my reasons for feeling down - homesickness? or something else? The whole moving to a new country really takes its toll and it is only once the initial excitment is over that minds and bodies have the opportunity to recover.

Best of luck with your decisions.

And Janey - are you having doubts as well or is it just your OH?

[Janey]

I love it here but OH is dragging me down neither of us miss family we might as well be on Mars (we have 2 members of OH family live overseas but all the UK lot wll lets not go there it would not matter where we lived and this was the same before we moved)
maybe its the weather, his job (he hates) working FT (his choice) funny UK for him is all sun and roses I think not but we live together love each other etc so it gets you down as well!

[PonyGirl]

Aw, sorry to hear you are struggling. I hope you and your family can figure it out. Good luck!

[M-Squared]

Hi mgf, like JandM said, that was very brave of you to post your true feelings. Whereabouts in the US are you from? I do hope you feel more settled soon, however that's often easier said than done when they're gearing up for summer in the US and we're approaching winter. Hang on in there and get out and join some social groups. :) Best of luck to you and yours.

[leachio]

mgf, well done for lasting 15mths feelin the way you do, but dont let your health suffer much more, I 100% know how that feels. For us NZ was an expensive mistake but we are home and recovering well :)

[Arwen]

Wishing you and your family the very best of luck at this difficult time. I hope everything works out for you in the end. :nice1

[Andy-Dee]

Sorry to hear your troubles Janey - hope things settle down or you get that moment of clarity where you know what to do - good luck

[sweetpea]

mgf, your situation is a little more complicated than mine, with some family wanting to stay, some wanting to go. but, for what its worth, can you make a tentative decision to go back to the US in 7 months? that may give you a goal to work toward and give you some hope. if, in 7 months, you find you want to stay after all, you can always change your mind.

irishliz's suggestion of a trip back to the States is a good one, if you can spare the funds. it may make your decision more clear.

and don't dismiss the value of a pharmaceutical solution. describe your feelings to your GP and see if s/he thinks an anti-depressant is appropriate.

[IanW99]

There were some posts to this thread that were not relevant to this thread.

These have been moved to Best and Worst Things? Part 2 (http://www.emigratenz.org/forum/showthread.php?t=24949) thread.

Ian