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Han
12th July 2005, 08:17 AM
I don't wish for this to be classed as a 'negative post' because I'm not a success story for life in NZ but thought I'd write an update about our return.
My partner and I were living in Wellington as of last September. We made the decision to go back home to London as things were not working out for us in NZ. We were unsure if it was going to be right for us at the time, but we were starting to struggle in NZ.
I am very pleased to report that we've been back for two months and we're both so happy. It's funny how you focus so much on what's bad about a place when you know you're leaving.
We have moved areas and are now in a small village in beautiful countryside, with a main railway line straight into London within 20 mins.
Life back here is great. An area is only as good as the people who inhabit it. We were definitely in the wrong area before! Also, you can only get a grip on your identity when you leave all things familiar and it's just you and yourself out there.
I never felt one ounce of pride to be British before I left for NZ. That could not be more opposite now!

It's great to have real friends who I've known all my life just down the road again. We're currently living with my parents whilst our flat gets secured and there's not been a row yet! It's amazing how we took people for granted before.

Most of all, in the wake of this past week, that all gets rammed home. I felt so proud when we won the Olympics! It was like we'd won the world cup!!
Then another sense of pride, for the opposite reasons.

My family and friends were all in London, just like any other day. We have been so lucky, many weren't. By some strange twists of fate, everyone I knew was OK. Friends and family missed 'the' trains, some heard it in the tunnel, some saw it happen, but they're all OK.
Thursday night, when I sat down to dinner with my family, I was so glad to be here. If I was in NZ, I would have lost it completely. Here, in London town, with my family and friends is where I belong. I was born and bred in north London and that's where I'm staying.
Wellington was amazing and I hope to go back and visit many times in the future but this is my home.

I really do wish everyone the best of luck. New Zealand is a special place which is prefect for some people.
One final request before I'm off though is that at Thursday 14th July 12:00 noon GMT that wherever you are in the world, you join the 2 minute silence. We are after all, all in this together and we are all affected, for we are all British...underneath it all.

jan
12th July 2005, 08:27 AM
We have been here 2 months up to now, and what you have said rings so true every day in my thoughts.

I must admit when we watched the horror unfolding last week , I had a massive sense of `I have to go back home to be with my family and friends`. I did not have anybody remotely close to the disaster. I just felt like I needed them. I got lots of txts to say how lucky i was in a safe country now, but I felt..... lonely.

I very often have major pangs of `Why have we left an almost near on perfect life, to alienate ourselves from EVERYBODY we love?`

It is VERY VERY beautiful here, but the adjustment of not having those close to you not around is EXTREMLEY difficult.

Han I hope everything turns out right for you. I feel like you do right now.
Good luck :nice1

Hannah
12th July 2005, 08:30 AM
Hi Han
Not a negative post, but one which is incredibly positive in light of what happened last Thursday. The London bombings really leave us with a sense of what is important, even more so for those that were caught up in them. It doesn't matter where we are - it is the people around us who are important, not the size of our house or the view from our kitchen window. I hope that this tragic event will unite people of different faiths rather than justify the continuation of anti-muslim sentiment and asylum seeker bashing that is so typical of 'public opinion' in the press in recent months/years (something which I would not be sad to leave behind if I were to leave this country). Something positive must come out of these events, if only to help us to make sense of it - lets hope a breaking down of barriers between us and the muslim world is one of them.
Thank you Han, I really appreciated your thoughts this evening,
Hannah

veronica
12th July 2005, 08:40 AM
Everything you do is a learning experience and helps make you what you are. I have said in many of the posts that I have written that its important to not knock the UK to justify leaving there. All the things that are negative can be balanced by something positive. And to be honest a lot of the things that people write about as being negative are very often issues here too.
It is so important to be reaistic about your reasons and goals for coming here, even if its just a whim, something you fancy doing then as long as you acknowledge that then you have a far better chance of enjoying the experience. Its blooming hard leaving people behind, they are the biggest factor for people leaving here and returning.
Glad your happy about what you are doing, to me that makes it a positive post. good luck.

pleccy2000
12th July 2005, 09:15 AM
Han - didn't you meet any lovely wonderful friends in Welly? :laugh

Jodie
12th July 2005, 09:56 AM
Han - didn't you meet any lovely wonderful friends in Welly? :laugh

Yeah - didn't you meet any good drinking partners? :laugh :cheers

Nah seriously - I'm really pleased for you both. I actually emailed you this morning tos ee how you were getting on, then came on here and read this! spooky! :eek

Glad you made the right decision and are settling back into London life. How's things going with you too Plecs? Hope to see you back here soon so we can catch up for a few more drinks!

Jod
:cool

pleccy2000
12th July 2005, 10:01 AM
Yeah - Surely you must have met SOME nice people (eh Jodie :) )

Han
12th July 2005, 10:04 AM
Well you guys weren't bad to pass the time I guess......!!!!!

HAHAHAHAHAH!!! You can't slap me from here! :exit

Not at all, you guys were great and I miss you. We had some great times in that blistering NZ sun!

Jod, thank you so much for emailing. I didn't get it though?? Please don't think I'm being rude and didn't reply!

Will email you for a proper update!

Off to bed now but will write more tomorrow after work.

Jodie
12th July 2005, 10:13 AM
HAHAHAHA! You just wait til you next come out and visit - I'll save your slap til then! :laugh :laugh

Don't know why you didnt get my email - blimmin kiwi internet!! :roll: Will email you again later for a catch up. And Adam - let us know how you and Anna are getting on too - would be great to have an update.

Hope you're enjoying the British blistering sun while we're all snuggled up round the electric radiator in the evening to fight the chills! :laugh

Speak to you soon,

Jod

Miffy
13th July 2005, 11:06 AM
We have been here 2 months up to now, and what you have said rings so true every day in my thoughts.

I must admit when we watched the horror unfolding last week , I had a massive sense of `I have to go back home to be with my family and friends`. I did not have anybody remotely close to the disaster. I just felt like I needed them. I got lots of txts to say how lucky i was in a safe country now, but I felt..... lonely.

I very often have major pangs of `Why have we left an almost near on perfect life, to alienate ourselves from EVERYBODY we love?`

It is VERY VERY beautiful here, but the adjustment of not having those close to you not around is EXTREMLEY difficult.

Han I hope everything turns out right for you. I feel like you do right now.
Good luck :nice1

I've been out here for just over 2 months now and I love it :smile have no regrets.

However it wasn't until thursday (7/7) that I felt a bit homesick. Not only was it becuase of what happened and not being able to be with friends and family in the UK, I think it was because I was glued to the TV most of the night which was showing reports from the Beeb, with news reporters who I used to see every day and the way of presenting the news. Also seeing black cabs and london buses made me think of home.

Good luck with your new life back in the UK Han :cheers

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