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Diny
6th August 2005, 06:31 PM
Can't believe how fast the last 3 weeks have gone. Seems like yesterday I was at home saying all the heart wrenching goodbyes.

We've fit so much into our days - no wonder we're falling into bed at 8.30 most nights and asleep before our heads touch the pillow.

We're in the rental - it's not ideal but I've seen alot worse. Coming from a very nice, fully carpeted, central heated, double glazed, brick built fortress to a house that equates to little more than a garden shed has been abit of an eye opener. I'm not sure whether I'm embarrassed to live here or proud of my pioneering spirit :?

We bought father in laws car off him and beg, stole and borrowed all kinds of housewares from my mum in law to keep us going until the container arrives.

Oh yeah .... we've had word that the container is due to arrive in Wellington on 23rd of August ...... somehow that's alot sooner than we thought (not that we're complaining).

We've had a couple of amazing days out. The weather over is unbelievable. Middle of winter and we're getting hours of glorious sunshine. During the day it can easily get up to T-shirt temps, but it soon gets chilly when the sun goes down.

We've mastered the wood burner and have recently taken delivery of a huge load of VERY good fire wood.

We have been thrown head first into the re-cycling habit. Here in the Manawatu you are allocated 26 bin bags per year - and that's your lot !!!!! Bearing in mind we would easily fill one bin bag a day at home, you can imagine the shock that this has been to the system. We now have different boxes for glass, plastic and tin. Almost 100% of our waste paper gets burnt on the fire (plus anything else that will burn). Within the space of a couple of weeks I've gone from eco-terrorist to green queen !!!!

The boys have just completed their first week at school and they are absolutely LOVING it. For any of you who may be having worries about how your kids will settle, all I can say is let them do it in their time and they'll be fine. My kids aren't 'super kids' but they've handled the global transition like heros.

The no-uniform rule is a big hit with my boys. They come home everyday covered with mud 'cos they've been playing rugby at break time.

My first impressions regarding school are 'so so'. It's far too soon to make any real decisions about it. I'm happy enough with the more relaxed, casual approach as this has been paramount in helping Fergie & Henny settle, however, I can't help feeling things are a little too casual. Both Mark and I are also slightly alarmed at the change in our boys. They are using words that were never part of their vocabulary at home and they seem to have got a little 'cruder'. We're putting this down to the the fact that there's kids up to the age of 13 in their school whereas before they were only around kids between 4 and 9.

At this stage the promise of a prolonged, innocent childhood for the boys seems to have been abit of a 'carrot on a stick'. We've seen nothing to convince us of that so far. The other day Henny called somebody an 'ucker'. When we challenged him about it he said that's what all the kids call each other at school :eek It doesn't take a rocket scientist to work out what that word is meant to be. Yesterday Fergie asked what a rapist is :eek These are words that my kids would NEVER have used back in the UK. Don't want to get onto too much of a downer about this situation but it will be closely monitored. For now I'll keep an open mind :? The fact that the school the boys go to is considered to be a very good one is a touch worrying.

The other day Mark and I went into the woods to gather pine cones for the fire (they burn well and are HOT) - whilst standing under a tree I was pi**ed on by a possum !!!!!! I now consider a dead possum to be the best type !!!!!!!

First impressions????? Well - difficult to say really seeing as this not the first time I've been here. Alot of things here are exactly the same as at home, alot are totally different. The supermarkets are a constant source of entertainment for me. The fresh produce is second to none - even the presentation of it is far superior to anything you get at home. The meat is good quality and cheap but I can't help finding the presentation of it a touch 'crude'. Maybe the fact that I'm VERY tickle stomached about meat makes large blood covered slabs of meat slapped on a plastic tray under some cling film abit off-putting.

Super concentrate washing up liquid isn't :no Several squirts and hardly a lather ...... must change my brand. Shampoo and conditioner come is MASSIVE bottles - with MASSIVE price tags too - thankfully I have a huge supply coming over in the container.

Homesickness .......... oh boy it's a killer !!!!!!!!! I knew it would be bad but nowhere near as bad as this. It can be crippling. Day times are pretty good but evenings and nights can be very hard. I phone home everyday which is great (have got a very good deal with Telecom). Just a couple of minutes to 'check in'. We've found it's helped alot, getting to have a quick chat each day closes the gap between us. Mum and Dad are in the process of booking their flights out here, arriving just after Christmas, in the grand scale of things that's not very far away at all. Personally I find having a visit to look forward to is a huge help too. I guess homesickness is something that we all go through at various stages. Be prepared - when it hits it hits hard !!!!!!!!!!!!

I can't wait for the rest of the NW crew to arrive - we've been finding some great places for days out and bush walks etc ....... you lot are going to love it.

Tomorrow (Sunday) we're meeting up with Dave & Sandra for lunch in Palmerston North. We've spoken a couple of times but can't wait to meet up at last. We were meant to be going down to Welloington today to meet up with Carol & Kenny but too many domestic duties got in the way, we're meeting up in a couple of weeks half way between here and Welly - looking forward to that too.

Mark goes away on Monday for just over 4 weeks. The boys and I aren't looking forward to that one bit but we have to face it. I guess it will get easier with time.

The NZ fascination with rugby never ceases to astound me. This morning we stood and watched my nephew play ......... err sorry ...... I just don't get it :no Good on 'em and all that but it leaves me cold, the thought of 'get a life' springs to mind ........ will put on the flack jacket now :mrgreen:

Have taken some more pics so will get them loaded up and posted on here for you to have a look at.

So ....... so far so good. Homesickness is a much bigger issue than I thought it would be - as for everything else I'd say it's pretty cool :nice1

Diny

Dinnaefash
6th August 2005, 06:52 PM
Glad things are going well, Diny :yes Great info, keep us posted! :nice1

Carol
6th August 2005, 07:04 PM
cya soon darl
:cheers

kiwidebs
6th August 2005, 07:44 PM
Hi Diny

So pleased to hear things are ok and the boys are settling. I love reading your 'reports' as you're so good at telling it 'warts and all'. It'll be a bit better once all your familiar stuff is around you - not long till then. And it must be great to have your parent's visit to look forward to. Keep the reports coming and more photos please.

We'll hopefully not be far behind you. We sold the house last weekend and have had the surveyor in. Now it's a frantic panic to get shipping quotes, sort through years of rubbish, catch up with and say goodbye to friends and family, make sure all the official paperwork is done etc, etc.

Take care.

Debs

pleccy2000
6th August 2005, 07:45 PM
Diny - great post!

Rememeber when i was homesick? It's quite difficult to explain the feeling isn't it.

Anyway glad to hear all is good.

Smiler
6th August 2005, 07:49 PM
three weeks already and christened by a possum :laugh :laugh :laugh

It's good to read about how well you're coping, but I hope the homesickyness eases for you. If 3 weeks has flown then I hope the months til your parents arrive, fly by too.

From what I've read in the NZ papers the writing style/language all seems to be more crude and descriptive, but it's a much more informal style. Maybe the boys are just picking it up in their 1st week 'cause it's new and it will pass.

Look forward to seeing pics when you get time to post them and reading about your next few weeks. :nice1

All the best
Deborah

Dazza
6th August 2005, 07:58 PM
Wow sounds like your having fun Diny :nice1 your reports are so informative and very helpful to us. Isn't getting *issed on by a possum good luck :laugh.
We received our ITA yesterday and are getting very excited, another step closer.

Mildred
6th August 2005, 08:00 PM
The other day Mark and I went into the woods to gather pine cones for the fire (they burn well and are HOT) - whilst standing under a tree I was pi**ed on by a possum !!!!!! I now consider a dead possum to be the best type !!!!!!!



Well I nearly wet myself reading that and I wasn't sitting on a tree!

Very concerned about the issues with school. Must admit I am worried that some posts I've read on the other site indicate kids aren't pushed very much academically. George starts Grammar School in September and it would drive him insane if lessons were too easy. Hopefully Carol will be able to comment on this.

I really feel for you with regard to the homesickness. We both lost our parents years ago so hopefully when our time comes won't feel the same level of homesickness - who knows?

I'm sure you are going to make lots of new friends very quickly. Has the school got a PTFA or something that you could join. That way you can get to know the workings of the school from the inside and meet other parents. Personally I think you ought to get yourself a dog - give you something to cuddle when Mark goes away ;)

(Anyone noticed that yet another post mentions bin liners! When I was in the Police on one particular section I worked on we would be given a word that we had to try to fit into the conversation with a member of the public sometime during the shift. It was normally something really silly like pink elephant or feather duster. You'd turn up at a burglary and say something like "did you have any elephants stolen?". Well I think the same thing is happening with this forum where you have to slip in the word bin liners in as many posts as possible) :laugh :laugh :laugh :laugh

Kim39
6th August 2005, 08:01 PM
Ay up lass,

Won't take up much on this post, but just to say i can see the boys faces and yours when that word "ucker" was mentioned :laugh you only have to think back to the other week after the airshow, when we were at your house when Mark and I grilled them over that can of beer we found :laugh

Hey make sure that camera is up and running for later on and we'll all have a good yak. Am in process of PM'ing you about it.

Kim

StevieD
6th August 2005, 10:37 PM
HI GREEN QUEEN!!! P****d on by a possum! Is that the equivalent of standing in dog muck up here? :laugh
26 BIN BAGS - OMG!! How big are they? Seriously good to see that the recyling thing is taken seriously down there. Liverpool has it's glass, paper and garden waste service now which is great, but not everyone uses it, I guess it takes time for people to get around to change. I'm waiting for the plastic recycling to start coz that's got to be the worst of the lot.

Got to get a grip of these kids with the beer fixation.... Kieran and Nicola have been struck by the habit since our visit to the farm....lol

Chin Chin old girl

The nutty gang XX

Gran
7th August 2005, 11:59 AM
Hi Diny, Glad to hear that you have (sort of) settled, re the boys, maybe you could look up better schools and when you move into your own place, move into the area covered by that school. Of course you will want to use up all that firewood first ha ha. Homesickness is a strange thing, sometimes it hits you like an ache in your stomach, wierd!!!

Avalon
7th August 2005, 11:58 PM
We've had a couple of amazing days out. The weather over is unbelievable. Middle of winter and we're getting hours of glorious sunshine. During the day it can easily get up to T-shirt temps, but it soon gets chilly when the sun goes down.


It got so hot today sitting on the beach we had to go inside after 10 minutes! :cool :cool :cool

No matter how difficult this whole emigration thing can get some times there are definate upsides :cool

jess
8th August 2005, 10:03 AM
Diny,

My favorite thing, besides pictures, is to read what people have to say about settling in. Very helpful - and kind of you to take the time when you're flat out busy.

As for the boys, like you said, there's a big difference between being with 4 to 9 year olds and being around 13 year olds. Dunno, but it seems like that would be an even bigger change than the cultural differences.

Thanks again, and looking forward to seeing your pictures! :clap
Jessica

sarahw
9th August 2005, 02:35 PM
Diny, great to hear how you guys are doing!

The possum bit made me laugh although I bet it wasn't funny at the time! - well not for you anyway! :laugh

Hmmm about the boys - I can understand your concerns. Colourful language is a bit more acceptable in every-day talk here (although obviously not for little kids) - our local radio station does phone-ins & whereas Kiss FM in London used to cut off any caller that even sounded like they were going to swear, its quite fine here in peak hour when kids are getting driven to/from school to utter the worst obscenities. When one day they caught the 'mad butcher' having quite a bad bout of swearing they only cut out 2 letters of what he was saying so it was still totally recognisable!!

I hope the homesickness subsides soon. I had a really hard time when Ian first went out to work before I got my job since I was just sitting at home lonely most days. He was coming back from work full of stories & all I'd done was studying (yawn!) and if it was a busy day I might have been to the local New World for a few groceries. As you get more into your life out here & build up your network of friends things get easier. :nice1

Carol
9th August 2005, 07:37 PM
One of the first things that happened to me when i started work as a teacher at Pauatahanui was tripping over a pet lamb in my classroom one morning!
:laugh :laugh :laugh :laugh :laugh :laugh :laugh
Hardly England......


Bottom line - you can't compare apples with oranges.

The curriculum here is quite different in many ways.
I was never an advocate for "pushing" kids.

Self motivation and developing a love of learning is infinitely more important to me than rank tables and SAT results.
Every class I have ever taught (both here and in England) have encompassed a huge range of ability in many different learning areas.
As a teacher - you are (rightly so) expected to get the very best out of all children in your care. So yes - bright cookies need extension and the strugglers will need support and scaffolding.


At primary level, the only person a child should be competing against is themself.
Children most definitely need to know where they are at - but more importantly - "where to next" to grow in their learning and achievement.
I personally think there is nothing worse than seeing parents talking in the playground "comparing" what reading group their kids are in - or whatever.
Similarly with homework.......I have my own personal views on primary school homework - but I doubt they will be popular.
If a child is reading, learning spelling words (that they have mis-spelt in their personal writing) and learning some basic facts each night for 20 mins or so (7 yr olds) and spending a couple of hours doing physical activities - including spending time at the beach or whatever - I reckon they will achieve in a well rounded way no matter what.

And......more important than anything else they will be happy.
Happy children learn.



:nice1

Diny
9th August 2005, 09:09 PM
Carol ...... as usual you've cheered me up. What a brilliant posting !!!

I've got to work hard at getting rid of the UK ideas of education and chill out more towards the NZ way ...... but hey - old habits die hard.

I have to admit - my kids seem very relaxed - that alone is worth alot.

Will see you in the next week or so and we can really chew the fat over this one.

Thanks hon :nice1

Diny

GeorgeM
9th August 2005, 10:05 PM
One of the first things that happened to me when i started work as a teacher at Pauatahanui was tripping over a pet lamb in my classroom one morning!
:laugh :laugh :laugh :laugh :laugh :laugh :laugh
Hardly England......

A few months ago on BBC7 there was a series of memoirs of a school inspector from somewhere 'Oop North' - Lake District I think.

This was just the sort of thing he came across in the tiny isolated primary schools up there. (Not exactly this, but things like a class of 7 year olds getting sidetracked into discussing the exact breed of sheep pictured in their reading books, and why on earth anyone would want to keep them up on the high fells as they're just not hardy enough :laugh )

Well worth a listen if you get the chance.

Debbie
9th August 2005, 11:02 PM
Carol,
If we are luck enough to find primary schools for our children in NZ that share your views we will be more than happy. As a parent I want to know if my child is falling behind for his age but except that there is a wide range of ability in every age. There is always someone at the top and someone at the bottom and everyone else in the middle.
As you said, happy children learn and enjoy learning.
Debbie

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