[robothamma]

This is one of the worst days of my life :wah Phil was due to fly from Manchester tonight at 8pm for 2 weeks to NZ, however without going into to much detail, after a few "revelations" we have decided to call it a day, and the marriage is now over, as are our so called New Zealand Plans. Can't write too much as it is still too raw. I feel very hurt and let down but worst of all I feel for my kids as they have had to suffer what must have been one of the worst 6 week holidays ever, as I have been so busy trying to organize everything I have spent hardly anytime with them :wah I now have to let all the contacts in NZ know who he was supposed to be contacting over the next week or so.

Thank-you to everybody on this forum for all your help, and who knows maybe one day I will get there :(

I thought I would let you all know in case any of you wondered where I had gone! Sorry it's not good news, but good luck to all of you, I will check in, every now and then and see how you are all doing.

All the best
Michelle

[kiwidebs]

OMG - Michelle I don't know what to say. You will be missed on the forum. I wish you all the best with picking up the pieces and moving on. Life really is **** sometimes! Take care and I'm sending you some huge cyberhugs!

Debs

[gil]

Dear Michelle,
Lots of love and hugs; hard to know what to say, but we are thinking of you. Your children still think you are the best mum they could have, and you are, so no feeling bad on that score. Be kind to yourself in the coming days so you can be kind to others, and remember you have tons of support,
Gil
xx

[Diny]

How sad I am to read your news. I'm totally shocked and feel very sorry for all of you. I also have no idea what to say, but just want to let you know that I'm thinking about you.

Please keep in touch.

Diny

[Smiler]

Michelle

Don't go away.

I'm sorry to hear your news and that you have all had a tough time.

I'm not so good with words here, but I am thinking of you and the children.

Stay in touch, we are all hear in cyberspace if you need a chat or indeed a rant.

This isn't meant as trite or patronising as I don't know your circumstances but the dream will only be over if you let it be. In time you will gather strength and be able to think of it again. Hold the dream.

Big hugs

Deborah

[K&CS]

So sorry to hear your news, Michelle. Really don't know what to say. Kids are resilient -they'll get through. You just concentrate on getting your life back together and if you want to talk to someone who isn't involved, I'm sure you can count on a lot of people on this board, myself included.

Please don't be a stranger - we'll all be thinking about you! As you say, you may still get to NZ in the end.

Kate x

[Nicola]

So sorry to here your news. It must be tough going for you. Having gone through a tough break up myself, all I can say is there is always light at the end of the tunnel and it may be very bleak now, but never ever give up on your dreams.

Thinking about you.

Nicola

[zensamurai]

Hi Robothamma,

After all these low minded "OOOh I am so sorry for you ... " I just want to say: I think I know what you are going through but nobody can support you than yourself. Just believe in future then we all do not know what will come.
I just can recommend a book "Everyday Zen" Charlotte Joko Beck and you never will be alone any more.

Best regards

zensamurai

[Timbo]

Zen. I am not sure I understand what you are getting at with your wording there. I sincerely hope you are not criticising those offering moral support in a time of crisis.

[Smiler]

Zen

Low minded we are not :mad:

We are supportive and caring and will continue to be in ANY way we can, whoever needs it.

Deborah

[Moorf]

Michelle

I can only echo what others have said above, and wish you and your kids all the best for whatever the future holds.

Keep in touch, whether emigrating or not.

Best wishes
Moorf

[eric_amanda]

Oh Michelle, you poor thing. (((BIG HUGS)))

I am so sorry about this, and really do not know what to say other than my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Please keep in touch, you have my e-mail address.

Thinking of you.

Best wishes

Amanda

[Mildred]

Michelle

Don't stop posting on this site and if you need a shoulder to cry on I'm sure we are all more than willing to listen - pm if you need to.

Life can be absolutely crap at times, but sometimes we need to go through rock bottom life experiences to experience the good. Things will be good for you, actually they WILL BE 100 times better than they are now given time but this doesn't help you or your kids at the moment.

Look I know that this is probably all coming out wrong as I type it, but thank god you found this out now whilst you've still got your friends and family on the doorstep.

Really sorry and wish I could do or say more

Frances

[Singel]

I am really shock to know that your dream has been shattered, I feel so, so sorry for you.

BE BRAVE, my girl, God must have something better for you*.

*I have used this as my mental therapy when I gone through rough patches and I emerged positive, stronger and better in life. I'm sure it will WORK on you as well.

Please talk to us anytime, pouring out your saddness or anger will make you feel better.

Take care and talk to you soon.

Lots of love {{{BIG HUG}}}
Ivy

[Avalon]

Even though I do not know you - please accept a {{{HUG}}} from someone who has also been there.

There will be a way through this, and though you will go through some very bad times, you will also see some very good times. You will probably find out who your friends are, and they are the ones to cherish above all.

Please remind your self that you are worth it. And please take care of yourself - its so easy to look at your own needs last and put everyone else first.

I will be thinking of you.

[Annierobrigado]

dear michelle,

much as i want to ask why? what happened? i respect your grief and privacy and would just like to extend my hugs from across the ocean. Bless you and your kids. (men... http://www.emigratenz.org/forum/images/icons/icon8.gif)

annie

[Paul and Linda]

I may well be overestimating the power of this forum, especially insuch distressing times, but don't forget we are all here at all different times of the day if you need to do some forum chatting.

Paul

[Kim39]

What do i say lass, words have failed me:no This has come as a big surprise to me especially since our meeting only the other week at the NW meet, and after those phone calls that i made to Phil and vice versa only last year. Am sure the NW crew have and will send our best wishes to you and the children for the future and whatever it has instore for you.

Am sorry i can't say more, but the words have definately been taken out of my mouth. Keep your chin up lass.

Kim

[Dazza]

Michelle so sorry to hear the news, I can only reiterate what others have said. As you can see you have lots of support from forum members, so your not alone.

Daz and wendy.

[blue]

Sorry to hear your news. I have been there myself when my kids were 3 and 4yrs old. The first year was hard but after that and getting used to being on my own I hav'nt looked back since and everything believe me will turn out for the better. Be as positive as you can about the situation. This is the first step. You proberly feel pretty hurt at the moment but dont let it beat you. Keep on top of everything and think about what you really want for yourself and your kids. Do take care of yourself and put yourself first you need to be strong so you can work through everything with the kids.
If you want to let off steam and talk I am here for you and just pm me your phone number or e.mail. Am only to happy to help in anyway I can.
Regards
Dot
X
ps hugs to you and the kids.

[marcia]

Just read this post - totally shocked - would like to add our support. Keep in touch!

[Cardiff Irons]

Michelle, so sorry to hear your news. I've found this forum to be one of the most supportive places I've experienced - people glad to share in your good news and eager to support you in your down times. I guess at the moment this may not be the greatest of comforts, but you have many friends on here to call on and do not feel afraid to lean on them.

We ALL look forward to hearing from you again.

Take care


Steve :nice1

[jo b]

Michelle,

Sorry to hear your world has gone into a turbulant spin.

just because your dream seems further away doesn't mean you have to be far away from the forum.

Please, we can be that objective listening ear sometimes you need going through tough time like these, so keep posting.

And to echo may others soemtimes thing happen and only with hindsight do you realise that it was the right thing to happen.

Jo

[selchie]

I offer my sympathies as well. I hope all works out well for you, and that you find greater happiness soon.

[StevieD]

Michelle, I can only echo what others have said. The one thing I will say though is don't start believing that the situation is your fault. These thoughts will cross your mind and it will be difficult. Be strong, analyse what you have, your children, your health, and you will start to pull through these difficult times.
Our thoughts are with you.
Steve, Jan XX

[Miffy]

Thats really sad news, and *hugs* to you and your kids.