[blue]

I have been waiting for some kind of emotional blackmail from my mother and today it happened.
Suddenly she becomes ill its her leg and she is saying that she cant walk and also has had a dizzy turn. She was planning so she says in coming out with me for the first 2 weeks and is saying now that she doesnt think she will be able to because she cant walk. We put a hold on the flights on saturday I wanted to book them but no she wouldnt do it wanted to be sure. they were keeping them untill today. I have persuaded them to hold them for another week.
Whilst telling me all this she contradicts herself a few times she has played tricks like this in the past and it really has made me SO SO angry as I have enough to think and worry about at the moment without more on top and being on my own too it is hard to keep focused with stuff. Her problem is she has always been a bit of a control freak and likes to take over everything and try and control what I do.
Anyway just thought I would get this off my chest.

[Glenda]

Hi blue,

Her illness could be genuine but it sounds like she is testing how far her power over you goes, and it seems you instinctively know this too. You are going to have to go without her! You will have to go and she can have her ticket booked when she is 'better'. If she has a doctor's certificate, insurance should cover the flight cost.

My father-in-law tried to take us to court over an oral agreement he said he had with his son in 1984, in order to stop us going to NZ. When the flights were booked, he even threatened reporting us to social welfare for abusing our kids so we could not take them out of the country. He actually wanted social welfare to visit my son at school as he did not think the boy wanted to go to NZ with us, and he wanted to adopt him.

It is your life. Live it. (And good luck with what you do!)
:)

[leosus]

I have had somewhat similar feelings about what is going to be my fate as well...

My mother that raised me died almost 5 years ago, and Dad has remarried a nasty hag. I am adopted, and found my biological mom 12 years ago. We have been very close since we met, and she likes to keep her family around, so needless to say the "I am moving to NZ" conversation was pretty one sided.

Well, her daughter, my 1/2 sister told me she is writing a letter. Oh geez. I can just see it now since she has told everyone to try and get me not to move. I understand they are sad, and we will miss each other, but why is it so foreign to them that this move is something to bring more happiness to our lives? I have told few people I am actually moving (anyone who knows me knows I love NZ), just the ones who I know would need some time to get used to the idea.

I always say to people when they "argue" with me about moving-
"I don't want to want to move, don't you think it would be MUCH easier on me if I could find what I am looking for here?" Sell me an I love the USA/ am unaware of NZ pill and I will take it. Otherwise let me go, wish me well, and visit if you like, and I will see you when I come home. Afterall there is email and the phone!