[mossum]

Oh we've had an awful morning

tears tears & more tears ............... A bit of background , My step son is 14 - We are all very close - he visits every weekend & several full weeks when school holidays allow .His dad & I have been together since he was 18 months old & we have been married for 10 . DH & I want to make the move while we are relativly young , & whilst my Mum who lives in NZ is still alive .

Pauls son does not know it yet but his Mum 1/2 sister & her husband want to move to either Sidney or Auckland . We feel that now is the time for us to make a move - its just so damned hard - we cant explain the full picture to him .

We feel awful today - nasty horrible selfish people , but we still realise that we need to make the move for us . Sorry this is a ramble - my heads a mess today - it helps to just get it off my chest .

Vic x :uhoh

[zardell]

You are not rambling and if it makes you feel a bit better to get it off your chest - well, that's just fine.

Can't do or say anything that will make today better for you - wish I could - but it will all work out in the end.

Try and make the meet on the 18th if you can.

We've all got our differing problems associated with this big move and sometimes it helps to vent your feelings and bounce your thoughts with others in a similar position.

Remember, you're not alone.....

Chin up,

Julie

xx

[gil]

Dear Vic,
Huge cyber hugs {{{{ }}}}. I'm sorry I can't think of anything helpful to say, but we're all here for you.
Gil
xx

[StevieD]

Horrible the things we have to do. Julie has said the same thing, hopefully we'll meet you on the 18th?

Steve

[willsken]

Posted this before but it went missing in action! :mad:

I so sorry that you have such a hard thing to do. It must have been horrible. As you say you have to do the right thing for you in the end. Hope it gets better for you all soon.

[veronica]

Why can't his mum explain that they are looking to move to either Oz or Auckland now too, make everybodies life easier with a lot less pain. Really feel for you.

We have left a foster daughter with her 13 year old son behind and that was hard as he has lived with us for his first 11 years, but he flew out to us last UK summer by himself when he was 12 and spent 4 weeks with us and is coming back this August too. We've got a daughter in the Uk still but its not so hard when they are adults as they make their own choices.

[Smiler]

Vic

(((((((((Huge Hugs)))))))))))))) that sounds like an awful time for you.

Everyone else is right, we can't take away the pain, but we are all here should you need a cyber shoulder.

D xx x

[katandbob]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} from me too, ps I will need them when I have to leave my daughter and family behind, but the thought that they are going to postpone their honeymoon to come to NZ made me feel a bit better.

My daughter is going to be devastated when we go, but she will have a few mths with her brothers before they fly out to join us - she is even going to take them to the airport!

but she said that the knowledge that she will be coming out to join us in a few years, made it easier to cope.

hope that helps and that your extended family can tell him of their plans soon

Kat
x

[mossum]

Oh guys thanks so so much for all you kind words & support !!!!!

We just took him back home to sunny Wigan & he seems ok (ish ) . We had no further tears (at least off him) today - me i wept buckets all day long - he's my baby too .

His Mum just does not want him to know about them potentially going to Oz just yet - I agree it would have made life so so much easier & far less heartbreak all round today . I really beleive in keeping kids as informed as possible otherwise they just worry too .

DH is feeling guilty too , but is doing ok now - I'm sure in 2-3 years Jordan will think it's very cool to have NZ as a destination & he's pretty sensible - I'm sure he will manage to fly out just fine - it would be very easy if it was Sydney to ChCh though .

thanks again from a red eyed vic x