[Glo & Gil]

Hi all

Need testimonials from anyone around age 49 who made the move and how did you adapt to your new life.

Hubby still hesitates and is a bit scared to start from scratch at this age. The eternal question is what if it doesn't work ......?

Please need your help, urgent coz I desperately want to give it a try.

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glo

[Lisa T]

Morning!

My OH went to Auckland last October leaving me and the children to sell up. He had his fiftieth birthday in May (he won't be too impressed I'm tlling everyone!). He absolutely loves it, misses us terribly, but the lifestyle has really made him look great and feel great.

He has lost the stress-related grey palour associated with the lifestlye and job pressure in the UK and has grown to love the laid back attitude, weather and general outdoors of NZ. He has been skiing and is learning to dive after meeting a group of people through the forum!

I speak to him every morning on webcam and can't believe the change in him - he looks great, really healthy (even with a cold and feeling sorry for himself!) and just so relaxed.

I guess you have a choice - work yourself to a frazzle, stack the money away in the UK and then drop dead as you reach retirement, or loose the stress and look forward to some south sea island.........

Good luck with everything
Lisa T..................

[Avalon]

Hubby still hesitates and is a bit scared to start from scratch at this age. The eternal question is what if it doesn't work ......?


Ok, so im not even close to 49 - but I would say this to your hubby:

If it doesnt work - you go home. Yep - its expensive and its a chunk out out of your life - but hey - you did something most people only dream about. You have tried a new life and seen something you didnt before. You stretch yourself and learn something new. In some cases - you will learn a lot about yourself.

And more importantly what if it DOES work???? What then???? What can you gain from emigrating (even if for only a little while) that you can get from staying put? Not a whole lot.

It takes courage to do this. It takes just as much courage sometimes to say its not for you and go back. But to stay home and NOT do it - well for some people I suppose that takes a courage of its own, but you could end up losing something very precious.

Lets get one thing straight - none of us knows the outcome of this before we come out here. We all have to take a huge leap of faith. We all have different reasons for coming here. Some of us are the driving force, like you are , some of us come here because our partners drive us to do it. But we have to do it. We have to try and we have to give it a go. And that means not letting the fear stop us.

I hope he decides to give it a go. Even if you dont stay forever - its better than wondering "what if" for the rest of your lives.

So - where are you in the process - how are you coming into NZ? Are there and aspects of the process taht we can help with and put his mind at ease maybe?

{{{HUGS}}}

[Glo & Gil]

Hi

Lisa T thank you. Hope you will soon fly to your man .

Avalon thks too this will help a lot.

We are hoping to send EOI this month with 125pts. Hubby is in IT computer + ATM technician with a past wk experience as Electrician (12 yrs) as well. So I think he will be able to have several options. we have a son of 15.

Not sure where to settle yet. The south is tempting with green spaces but the climate is quite the opposite what we are used to. We live on a tropical island with sun sun sun and a 10 deg C winter.

Personally I don't see why it won't work if we decide to move . If we manage to get a job maybe at first it won't be in the specific field we are in . The issue is to get entry and then make it work.

Where there is a will there is a way. Isn't it?

And what about you Avalon?

cheers :exit

glo

[sarahw]

Hi,

Friends of ours moved out here last year, she's in her 50's and he was 49 - they're happy as. Settled in really well. They moved to where they could get the work, 2.5 hours from their daughter, but are really pleased with their move & love living in the countryside.

I guess if it doesn't work then you go back & pick up where you left off but if you don't give it a go you'll never know!

[K&CS]

Lisa, I thought I had misread it when you said hubby had just turned 50!! He certainly doesn't look anything like it! I can't believe you're still in the UK - it must be so hard for all of you. Are you having any luck with selling? Please keep us posted on your progress and whether you decide to just 'sod it and go'.

Glo, hope hubby feels a bit better soon. It's always tough to take the risk, I know, but, as has been said many times on here, it's better than wondering 'what if'. Good luck.