[marcia]

Ok guys - having a really bad day - trying to sort stuff out in the house, the sun is shining in my garden, (would like to be out there pottering really!!) Kev is off sorting his stuff out, 2 elder boys at school, Emerson in bed, mum and dad away on a cruise, feeling VERY lonely and sad, tears pouring down my face! I know this is the right thing for us to do, but I feel very emotional at the moment (suppose the PMT isn't helping either :wah )

Just wanted a few words of comfort from fellow forumites who will know exactly what I'm feeling at the moment. Wish my fairy godmother would come along with her magic wand and whoosh all the packing and sorting out would be done and we'd be there!!!!!

Well suppose I'd better try and tackle the wardrobes again - had to stuff everything I'd sorted back in hastily yesterday for one of those nosy people who come and waste your time looking at the house, but haven't even sold theirs yet - sighhhhhhh - will it ever all fall into place?????????????

Sorry to rant on but i know you guys understand and its good to let the emotions out - can't do it in front of the boys, don't want to upset them yet!!!

[willsken]

Marcia I have every sympathy. I know exactly how you are feeling.... although I must admit to being on a bit of a high at the moment. I sometimes find myself having tears in my eyes when I think about family. In some ways I have it easier as my best friend is heading out there as well. Although not to the same part as us. (shame!!)

You will feel better soon and the excitement will hit you again. All the damn packing and sorting doesn't help does it? :nice1 Keep your chin up, you'll be there before you know it.

[Lupin]

You're not alone Marcia. I'm not at the packing stage yet but I'm not looking forward to it at all, possibly one of the hardest bits (especially if you've got to do most of it alone) but November 13th is very soon.....so (((HUGS))) for today :)

[Family Maidment]

Know the feeling...

We had arranged for the removal company to come in and pack a few days prior to exchange on our house. I had a 5 day - yes 5 day - old baby after a c-section. To say good buy to our stuff on the container and then get the call from the Estate Agents to say the chain had fallen through??????? AAAAHHHH

Our stuff has done, flights already booked and we then had to start again remarketing our house???

Anyway it all worked out in the end - House completed 2 months later, stuff all arrived safely - only one thing broken and that was a childs toy and who was to say it wasn't broken in the first place!

You will be fine - Just look to the future and your new exciting life some where in NZ!

Jo

[Milliemoo]

Marcia,

I'm writing this from the comfort of my garden recliner in the front room :o

It's a very strange feeling, but I'm glad everything's gone. You will feel better, it's just another thing to cross of the list of things to do and the next 4 weeks will fly by....well that's what I keep telling myself anyway.

Milliemoo

[suzer]

I've done this whole thing twice and am soon to be doing it again. It's just tough at times... sympathies with you.

suzer

[Trigirl]

hi marcia

amazing how this whole process seems to magnify bad days like anything. keep at it - there's a fab new life waiting for you both and for the boys on the other side of the world.

[Smiler]

Hi Marcia

Big Hugs! I can understand exactly where you're at. It's a year ago since I had all these feelings and some days they still seem so raw, but on normal days I know what a brilliant move we have made.

The removal stuff does seem never ending, especially if like us you has a mid-life times worth each of tat to sort though. Just do a wardrobe at a time and tick it off on the list.

This whole thing is an emotional rollercoaster, all I can say is that it does get better and the sooner you're outta there and living your new life, the sooner you'll settle. And yes I still get very teary, but I'm able to put it more in perspective now and have a good weep on a friends shoulder for a while.

Hope you feel a bit better soon.

[marcia]

Thanks you lot - had a huge cry this afternoon with my mother in law, both of us together, still feel teary and me and kev had a big hug at tea time and he had tearsin his eyes when I was telling him about his mum.

The next door neighbour has just invited me to a jewellery party, loads of wine and nibbles, (i'll be doing plenty of whineing!!!! :D )

We have booked the shippers today for the end of October - 30th, 31st and st, have rung letton Percival for the insurance so got loads sorted really.

Anyway I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow after a good nights sleep!

Thanks again for the encouragement - really means a lot! :nice1

[Babette & Andy]

Ohhh Marcia, I too have sooo been there :wah The enourmity (sp) of it all does get too much as you're trying to organise all the details for the big family move all yourself, you wouldn't have it any other way, but it does make you feel very lonely and emotional as you're trying to put your lives in England to a halt in readiness for what awaits you here in NZ.

But you know what, the fact that you do think about the 'what if's', and 'are we doing the right thing' means that you're not heading this way with blinkers on, expecting the grass to be sooo much greener. You and Kev are very levelheaded hard working people, who don't take anything for granted and there are many friends waiting for you at this end to help make the transition to your new lives that little bit easier for you.

In our own ways we've already been there, and pulled through. Some days are harder than others but for us now already 7 months in, we believe we've made the right choice. Time will hopefully show that it's the right choice for your family too.

BIG HUGS from Auckland coming your way :yes :yes
Hang in there

Babette

[Kim39]

Hang in there Marcia as it does get easier closer to the date. Ok i haven't had a good whinge, which i am sure others have over their impending move, but you are aware of what my situ has been since arriving here, and prior to the move. All sorts of what if's just keep cropping up just when you think you have covered everything, even now close to 12 months in the what if's just keep coming, but knowing you and Kev the way we think we do you'll survive whatever is thrown at you. Chin up lass, and we'll see you this side soon.

Hey, you can always take the option of the old girl on the cruise from the email you sent me. No worries there eh:laugh


Kim

[Nienke]

Not much to add to what already has been said, just wanted to send you a big cyberhug and wish you all the best!

[katandbob]

yep hugs from me too.... it will be hard but hang in there gal, you want this and it will be a better life for them cute boys of yours... hope the clearing of the wardrobes goes well

Kat

[Marie P]

Marcia .....did you get your hug that I sent via Ayrton earlier.

You know its gonna be a tough few weeks ,but you know where you are going ,its been a long tough road ,last few steps up the hill are awful both physically and mentally .............

Wait till you get to the other side ,I'm sure a few little humps to get over ,then you can freewheel the rest of the way.

I can't wait to have you back over here ,making you both umpteen cups of tea :cheers

Marie x

[Trigirl]

hi marcia

hope you are feeling better today.

i'm starting on wardrobes and cupboards today - eeeeeeek

take care
mandy

[jubjub]

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Marcia, you are having a rough time, but you will get through it, not long to go now, at least you have people there that can comfort you, when you get here there is a chunk of the NW crew waiting, and they all understand and will be friendly faces and ready with a hug or two ....... along with a bunch of us you have not even met yet!

[marcia]

Thanks guys - feeling better today after a couple of glasses of wine last night :cheers .

This forum is fantastic - I love it!!

[Trigirl]

I'll admit to a couple of glasses of wine last night too. I took an OU maths exam on thursday and really felt the need for a bit of a blow out! Amazingly therapeutic!

[willsken]

I'll admit to a couple of glasses of wine last night too. I took an OU maths exam on thursday and really felt the need for a bit of a blow out! Amazingly therapeutic!

Exams yuk! How did the paper go? Bet you did really well! :p

[Trigirl]

it did seem to go pretty well - studying was really one stress too many this year and i probably shouldn't have done it but it seems to have worked out fine :cheers

[Hannah]

Hi Marcia,
Lots of hugs from me too.
I'm dreading packing - makes it feel so real doesn't it. We are same boat as you, with house for sale still, but keeping it tidy and noone even looked at it yet! Will rent if not sold by xmas.
high stress levels in our house, as we throw stuff away and wonder how we will get whats left into a 20ft container, and my best friend continues to be devastated that i'm going. I know this is the right thing for us to do, and i guess i've at least got prior experience to KNOW - that makes it easier and less scary. But i just know that loading that stuff in that container is going to hit home real hard that this IS IT!!!!
When you get there you will KNOW too - just let the jet lag and the initial culture shock pass and the blue sky will blow you away. Before you know it you'll be putting the kettle on and fellow forumites along with friendly locals will be dropping by for tea!
Take one day at a time, and keep those glasses of wine filled if it helps, and keep posting ... this forum is a good place for days like that!
You'll get there! Just think of those days where you were waiting for hubbys job offer, praying it would come through, terrified that it wouldn't......your ticket to do what you are doing now!
Hannah

[Hannah]

Trigirl, OU course!!!! Best thing I ever did (I graduated in 2000). And you can carry on in NZ too!!!!!
I know how hard it is - week after week, no break, and that damned calendar with all those assignment due dates on. Doesn't it feel good when that exam is over. And don't you feel so proud of yourself - rightly so!!! Well done!!!!!