[Moorf]

For those of you already in NZ....

Do you intend to spend the remainder of your days in New Zealand? No-one can be 100% sure as we don't know what will happen in the future, but at this point in time do you intend to push up pohutakawa or daisies? :D

[Marie P]

I've voted undecided .....not been here long enough to know ....

We were talking at the weekend [cheerful subject ] if one of died in the near future ,where did we want to buried ?

I couldn't answer question this yet :confused: Can any of you ?

Marie x

[Avalon]

For me yes, but I do have to say its not an entirely comfortable thought. With all my family for generations back being buried in english soil, it seems a bit off to suddenly have us all making our last home here. I know there is absolutley no real sense in that - but there it is.

I was discussing this with mum the other week actually - we need to get a headstone in the UK changed because my Grandma ashes were added into her mums grave, and my grandads are in there too. But the headstone doesnt say that - and Im worried that if any children we may have want to go back - theres nothing to say where thier great grandma lies.

I need to go and sit in the sun and look at the mountains now - theres snow on them and they look stunning.

[Moorf]

We've had similar conversations, particularly as my family are buried all over the world. We came to the conclusion it wasn't worth worrying about and neither of us will care once we're dead and buried :D

For now I've voted Yes.

[Kim39]

Once again undecided, but this is due to my family having a plot back in the local church resting place which my mum's ashes are in along with my sisters, and which my dad will be joining at a laterrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr date. So i think i would like to be settled in that resting place also at a laterrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr date.


Kim

[KerryS]

Am I odd in not having thought about this before? I really don't care - well, I'll be dead after all!
I could be in NZ, I could be in the UK, I could be in Timbuktu - I really can't foresee being anywhere in particular, I don't want to predict what the future holds, and like living for the moment...
I do know that I wouldn't want to be repatriated to the UK if I were to die here though. (Or any country other than the UK.)

[ruthyroo]

Nope. We're enjoying what we have in NZ just now, but I've been just as happy in Scotland and have no doubt that I could be again. And I know if we have kids we'll want to be closer to family for a while at least. But we'll try and stay long enough do whatever it is that makes our PR valid forever just in case (if there is such a thing). And maybe long enough to get citizenship... and maybe check out Oz after that...

Notwithstanding there's no garauntee we'll be pushing up thistles - just because we aren't in NZ doesn't mean we have to go 'home'! Oh the life of a nomad...

[Avalon]

Once again undecided, but this is due to my family having a plot back in the local church resting place which my mum's ashes are in along with my sisters, and which my dad will be joining at a laterrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr date. So i think i would like to be settled in that resting place also at a laterrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr date.


Kim
Actually - I think thats what is bothering me. If my parents didnt want to rest here - im not sure I would either.

Isnt that a bit odd? As everyone says - im not exactly going to notice am I?

[incredible hulse]

I went no. Although enjoying it at the moment I am not convinced it is for me longterm. Main reason for this is increase in cost of living and the subsequent drop in standard of living and also the limited choice with regards work options. I'm using the time as a chance to explore NZ and the only targets I have at the moment at 2 years for the IRRV and if we manage to make that 5 years for the passport to Oz. Who know's after 5 years here may love it but on current thinking we don't enough to give up what we had at home OR to stop us looking for our next adventure

Steve

[Smiler]

I'm yes for now.

I love it here and have no desire to go back to the UK or elsewhere for that matter, at the moment. However OH is a nomad and whilst he is very happy here too, I won't be surprised if he suggests going somewhere else in a few years, although I don't fancy Timbuktu. He's a great one for experiencing new places, just might be a bit lonely doing it though. ;)

The only thing I can see that might make me unsettled is if my son gets married and has children in UK. I miss him so much it hurts and I can't think what it would be like to be away from him at that time, so I don't, think about it that is. I also don't know how I'd feel if my parents became old and infirm.

In answer to your question Marie, I have always known where I want to be buried, with my grandparents in UK. However standing on a cliff here, over looking the ocean with the waves crashing and the winds whipping through my hair, is changing my mind. I quite fancy Cape Reinga :D but I'm sure I won't be allowed unless someone can sneak up there with a trowel and what's left of me in a jampot.

I care now about where I'm gonna be buried, who says I won't know anything about it then? ;)

[Diny]

I've voted 'no'. Loving it here at the moment but the thought of this being my home for the rest of my days doesn't do much to light my fire.

Not saying I'd particularly want to go back to the UK (however I would chose it over NZ any day), it's just that there's a huge world out there and I'm not happy to say 'I live in the best place in the world' until I've visited everywhere and am literally qualified to make such a claim.

As for popping my clogs in a foreign land? Doesn't really matter. I will be cremated and then have my 'bits' returned home and scattered on the family farm back in the UK. I've even included these instructions in my will.

If my ashes are scattered anywhere else I shall come back and haunt every miserable member of the clan for centuries to come !!!!!!

Hubby was born here in NZ and has shown me the family plot in the local cemetry, he wants to be buried there.

Diny

[clg]

I put undecided but I am much closer to a yes than a no. I can't see going back to the US unless something very odd happened (NZ sinks into the sea...) Only reason I put no is I can't rule out moving somewhere else someday but no real plans to do that. On second thought I probably should have voted yes!

[katandbob]

Im an undecided too, but we haven't been here long enough yet. my gran and grandad are in the grimsby cemetery but theres no plaque or anything and its always bothered me, that there is no record of where their ashes are and the year they passsed (I cant remember either!) other than gran died on xmas day, I blocked it I think

On the other hand, with the requests for burials coming through the office, I have noticed that there are a lot more burials/family plots etc here - and that the average age is a lot older - 80's - 90's +

SO I may end up being here, the Cemeterys are fabulously maintained - and thats more than I can say about the ones that were back in the UK.

ooh what a morbid thread Helen!

ha ha

[Trigirl]

i asumed this was a "would you like to live in NZ for ever?" thread but it seems to have become a "would you like to be buried in NZ?" thread.

[Diny]

i asumed this was a "would you like to live in NZ for ever?" thread but it seems to have become a "would you like to be buried in NZ?" thread.


That's what I was thinking.

Diny

[KerryS]

Moorf posed the original question and asked about whether you would want to "push up daisies or pohutakawas". To me that implies being dead and buried - I certainly don't intend to do either whilst I'm still alive...

[sarahw]

I've voted for yes - we plan on staying here forever - no plans to leave , however, you never know what's around the corner...

As for being buried - I'd like my ashes taken to Kapiti Island & scattered there.

[Moorf]

Wonder what the rules are here for natural burials as I'd rather be buried under a tree than a stuffy headstone in a cemetary... in the UK burial forests were becoming popular... maybe that's something I can do with my spare paddock! :D

[sweetpea]

A "No" from me, I'm afraid. I like it here OK, but I love San Francisco. I wouldn't make enough money as a vet here to pay off my student loans, in any case. :uhoh

I'm going for the ashes scattered at sea post-death thingie, so I guess I'll be somewhere between California and NZ!

[Cardy]

NO!! staying here until the kids have done at school/university then off to cyprus or canaries for us. :)