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eyreb
Testing The Water
Joined: 10 Aug 2004
Posts: 4
Location: England
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Posted: Tue Aug 10, 2004 1:41 am Post subject: Extended family |
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Hiya.
Myself and my wife are considering moving to NZ. Technically this should be no trouble as I was born in NZ and have a current passport (lucky me!).
My main problem is the children and their grandparents. We have a 19 month old and a 6 week old, but would be looking to move before they start school (i.e in the next 2 years). Has anyone had any negative experiences with taking the children away from their grandparents?
Are they a good enough reason not to make the move? At the moment we are 50/50 on this. Any help appreciated! |
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John Miller
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Joined: 17 Nov 2003
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Location: New Zealand
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karltsmith
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Joined: 26 Nov 2003
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Location: North Shore, Auckland since March 2004
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Posted: Tue Aug 10, 2004 9:38 pm Post subject: |
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Hi eyreb,
We have twin two year old daughters and came out on 21st march this year. Our kids definately miss there grandmothers (bioth grandfarthers now deceased) and at times it's not easy! We get around it with regular phone calls, watching home videos of the grandmas and we have arranged for them to join us for a few months next year for there 3rd birthday. What is worrying me is how will they react when their grandmas, who they adore, go back to the UK.......GULP.....(lump in throat emoticon)! Not easy....yoou just ahve to find your own way through it. One thing I'm sure of is that bringing them out younger rather than older is best in my opinion. I think younger children adapt more easily!
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eyreb
Testing The Water
Joined: 10 Aug 2004
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Location: England
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Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2004 12:51 am Post subject: |
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Thanks for the replies! Obviously there is no easy option..
Agreed that younger is better in terms of the move. We both feel that we would be missing out on a big opportunity if we don't do it before they start school - the next chance we would get would be when they decide to leave home, at which point we wouldn't be too far away from retiring! (well 10 years or so, but I can't see myself getting much benefit out of those ski-fields when I'm 50-odd!)
I wish we'd thought of the move before we had kids then it wouldnt be such a hard decision! |
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charley
I'll Hang Around A Little
Joined: 25 Jul 2004
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Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2004 7:47 am Post subject: |
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Not only that, the school system is so depressing and rigid in this country compared to NZ....not sure about the grannies. I loved my Gran immensely, mainly because i hated my parents so much!!!!
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alexh
I'll Hang Around A Little
Joined: 06 Aug 2004
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Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2004 11:10 am Post subject: |
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| eyreb wrote: | (well 10 years or so, but I can't see myself getting much benefit out of those ski-fields when I'm 50-odd!)
I wish we'd thought of the move before we had kids then it wouldnt be such a hard decision! |
oh please don't say that for I am just about that age, and I had hoped my kids would teach me to snowboard 
Serious point is if you delay like we did, then you run the risk of not getting enough points to ever qualify. For 18 months I have been trying to get someone interested in offering me a job, despite all the qualifications etc.
so yeah, younger the better, and at least then your options are always open
cheers
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eyreb
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Location: England
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Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2004 10:59 pm Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | oh please don't say that for I am just about that age, and I had hoped my kids would teach me to snowboard |
Yeah, sorry about that. Didnt mean to be 'age-ist'!
I am sure that you will make a great boarder, cutting a dash down the slopes, scattering those kids out of the way... |
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eyreb
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Joined: 10 Aug 2004
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Location: England
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Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2004 11:01 pm Post subject: |
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| charley wrote: | | Not only that, the school system is so depressing and rigid in this country compared to NZ |
Would have to agree with that, my wife is a teacher and she says that NZ has one of the best systems in the world - a lot of the teaching methods that our teachers are trained on come directly from NZ. |
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